Let say a man goes out on several dates with a girl and shelves out cash paying for these dates. The woman in question does not pay for anything but eventually hits him with "sorry. I'm just not feeling any chemistry" or some variation to signal rejection.
Should the woman compensate the man by giving him back the money he wasted on dates with her or no?
He chose to spend all that money... money spent on dates fall under the gift rule - you can't ask for it back once it's given/spent.
That said, it's not fucking cool to go on dates just to get a free meal or movie or whatever. I have known chicks who have done that. Buuuuut there are assholes of both genders and sometimes people get duped or taken advantage of - it's people's responsibility to learn from those experiences.
From a guys perspective... I think I am smart enough to know when I am being taken for a ride, so no! I don't think a girl has to pay me back if we were dating.
However, one trick I have used in the pass when I was dating, was to forget my wallet in the car after the third date out. If she bawks at having to pay then it is adios amigo! If she has no issue, then I don't mind paying the next time.
After all that could be something that could honestly happen?
The women who make excuses for why women shouldn't have to pay or who claim to believe in equality between the genders but then only apply the equality when it benefits them should. Also the ones who exploit men for free meals and such. Though how you would enforce that I have no idea.
Relationship are not Economy, there is no Algebra in it! The worst thing a woman could tell to a guy who offers to pay (or vice versa, but it is less common to happen) is "I don't accept you to pay because I don't wanna owe anything to you." THE WHOLE POINT OF OFFERING IS NOT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN EXCHANGE! If I go out with some friends, it is not uncommon that one of us will pay for everyone else's drink, and not because we are millionaire, hell yeah we are all broke, but it is because it is something nice that we like to do. So, no, she shouldn't ABSOLUTELY give him back money, 'cause that would be like saying to him "Hey, I know you're a jerk who just paid for my meals for get in my panties, so here are your money, we're even now!".
I personally wouldn't make it to several dates if im paying for all of em. I don't think that really happens that often with people of normal income anyway, i think girls would be willing to go halves or pay half the time anyway so it's not an issue.
If a guy would want that just would prove it that he wasn't worthy. Any way... IF he is rich doesn't matter... if he is poor he should spend money like that. If he is ok i just spent money trying to be happy so its on him. And if he wanted share that should have do it earlier ( today i fucked up my English so bad sorry)
No, it's an investment, and not every investment will yield positive dividends/results. That's just how it works unfortunately. Now, the girl is bitch for letting it go multiple dates because I bet she already knew her feelings from before.. but I still don't think she's obligated to pay him back.
For example, if you give your best friend a gift but then you guys have a fall out, are you going to ask for it back? No, you already gave it to them.
I mean, what the fuck, tho? I'm sorry, but, is she retarded in the head?
"Lack of chemistry" is something I can conclusively detect in a maximum of about, oh, like 8 seconds. If I were on a FIRST date with someone and that happened... um... why the hell would there be a 2nd or 3rd or Nth date? Do not get. #mindBlown
I mean... srsly. Ain't got time for that. My time is valuable. My company, even more so.
Not to mention, dealing with that epic awkwardness... HOW? How could she deal? ::mouth hanging open::
All for some food?
Someone explain this to me, please, because... I just can't. Can't even.
Huh? No. I am assuming that on that date you ate dinner just like she did. You watched a movie or enjoyed a baseball game or went hiking or skydiving or whatever. You enjoyed it as much as she did. So why would she pay you for that?
As for that woman in Toronto, she should have "gold digger" forcibly tattooed on her forehead, because she is a low life giving the rest of us ladies a bad name.
That would be ridiculous. As much as I'm all for equality and taking turns paying each time, if he decided to pay for all of the dates whilst they were going out that was his choice. People would be in a lot of debt if they had to start paying their ex's back for the dates that they chose to pay for.
This is one reason I don't like guys to pay for too much stuff cos of the assumption they are paying for you or sex. This would be the equivalent of giving someone a gift. When you end a relationship, at any stage, you do not return gifts. Well I hope so, otherwise I'm in a lot of debt. 😳
I don't remember where, but there is a law that states that the girl must return part of the money spent to the guy if she dumps him after having dated certain time. Same applies to the guy, when the girl was the one who payed.