if they are interested in you." ~ advice from a dating book
So, if a guy doesn't ask you out the first time you meet him, game off?
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Not true at all. I'm finding girl I've known for years as people I'd not considered before... and finding other girls that I was initially attracted to as pretty repulsive now... and a few in between.
There's a girl that I never would have really considered... but she's started wearing makeup, and doing more with her hair, wearing better clothes with better colors, and she's actually gotten me to being speechless (mouth gaping open silent awe kind of wow) a few times. She was always "cool," (ok to hang with) but her look really wasn't working for her... Before, I might have hesitated, citing that the personalities and interests are too diffierent... but now, I'd say yes to a date in a heartbeat (ok, that is, if she were actually interested, and she asked... ha ha ha).
Some of the time, I'm really too nervous to talk to them much... so asking a girl out, while I might love to, I'm just trying to figure out how embarrassed I'd be if I tried talking to her, and if the risk of getting shot down was worth it. So no, the "logic" (I'm assuming) from the dating book is wrong.
There was a girl that I was like... ok, she's ind of cute...and I had a minor crush. Well, she talked to me for about 5 minutes, and showed her eyes... and I was stunned. Beautiful brown eyes.
There was another girl; really gorgeous looks. Yes, that's the visual aspect of us guys (ya'll are extremely visual too, you just act differently) I talked to her for 5 minutes, and I just thought she was strange, and she was a bit rude, which was a big turn off. And with her behavior, I'd have to think for a long time to figure out if I'd go out with her.
So yes, while we're visual, there are plenty of normal guys who won't date the girl if she doesn't have a personality we like; and if we find a girl annoying at first, we can eventually change our minds... and those we might not be physicially attracted to at first, can turn out to be kind of hot later on.