I have never successfully asked a guy out
out of fear of rejection.
how would one go about asking a guy out?
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You should be afraid. If you weren't afraid of rejection you'd be borderline a psychopath. People fear negative judgement. It's natural. It's what keeps society functioning. If you weren't afraid of asking these guys out then either you're experienced or you don't really care about their opinion of you. And since we know you're not that experienced and you DO care about their opinion then it makes sense that you should be nervous. But it's like jumping off a plane (I know bad example because most people haven't done this). When you jump off a plane for the first time you're actually strapped to someone more experienced. You don't really get to decide once your on the edge and they bend their knees you're falling and there's no going back. But you are freaking out the whole way up and when you're dangling over the edge of the plane you're most likely about to cry. On the way down you kinda chill out and realize well I'm up here now. If I die I die might as well enjoy these potential last few minutes. Attempting to start a relationship is the same way. You feel immense fear that escalates and peaks right at the moment your about to ask but right after you don't care. You think the rejections going to hurt but really it'll feel like a little prick. You'll say oh well in a sad voice, maybe eat some ice cream and move on. The anticipation doesn't match the actual outcomes. And when you don't pay attention to the process this happens every single time. But once you've done it enough you're body kinda understands that rejection is nothing more than a slight bummer and the prize of a relationship is totally worth that risk. It becomes like walking. When you start you're terrified of falling and you don't want to let go. But then you fall a few times and start walking without holding anything fast forward a couple years and your walking while kicking a ball or texting like its nothing. Learning new things is always scary but usually necessary.1