I've been dating for years! I have had a few relationships here and there, but most never really last more than a year.
I'm 26 years old, and everyone around me only had to go on a few dates to find the person they married or started a family with. Many of my friends settled down really young, and I think that's part of the reason I feel like there must be something wrong with me.
I want to settle down. But I feel like I have to constantly justify my life to other people. I'm at the age where everyone is asking me why I'm not married yet. And I have no idea how to even answer that question. It's not for a lack of wanting to find a guy. I would love to have a partner. But I just haven't been lucky enough to find one.
Sometimes I even feel like I'm just not good enough for a guy. I have a good job, I work very hard, I have a good head on my shoulders. I'm very loving, caring, kind and supportive. On paper I have all the qualities guys have told me they want. But I'm still single :(
Anytime I meet a guy I like, I feel inadequate. I do my best to try to be confident, but I never seem to win over the guy. If I do find a guy who is interested in me, he's putting me on a pedestal and I don't feel like he really see's me. I just want a guy who wants to be with me. Not someone who is going to be happy with whatever attention they get.
I've had several bf's who only used me in the past. Said they cared, but really didn't. Lots of bad experiences online too! Sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough to find a partner :(
Anyone else going through this? I honestly feel so alone :(
Most Helpful Guy
It's very common to be single at age 26. It's just your social circle that makes you feel differently. Also don't forget a lot of those friends who already settled down didn't have much in the way of standards or aren't really that happy (like you would have been if you had stayed with one of your ex boyfriends who you know weren't right for you).0
Most Helpful Girl
I get how you're feeling. It took me 27 years to get asked out, and I had pursued several guys. Many told me I'm the kind of girl you take home to meet your bedroom and not your mom, which is actually opposite. I'm such a good girl, I don't do casual sex so I don't know how they come up with that. I've always been overweight, so I always assumed that's why I couldn't find a guy. Then I met the perfect guy and we made it a year, I screwed things up by not opening up enough to him. You get to a point where you feel like maybe you're not meant to find someone. Like God has kept you alone for so long because you're not meant to find someone. I think that everyday, but Is till hope like hell its not true because I want more than anything to love someone and make someone happy.1