Are men intimidated by accomplished women?
Guys that I have spoken to in the would always talk to me about what they've accomplished and the moment I talk about my own they kinda grow silent.
Makes me wonder?
Does it make men feel less Masculine when a woman is more ambitious and accomplished?
I don't brag about my accomplishments I actually present myself normally, always cracking jokes and laughing and being really nice and I usually praise the other person for their accomplishments.
Most Helpful Guy
Usually women who are "accomplished" have way higher standards and think too highly of themselves. I would love to date a woman with her shit together but I know she wouldn't want to date someone like me who doesn't have his all worked out yet (and she probably wouldn't have the patience to wait for me to figure it out - I'd still try to date her though but from past experiences... girls don't care if you're improving they want you to be successful already lol).
Sure some guys have egos but the main problem is what that particular woman wants is unrealistic, there's a really good article I read last year written by this woman with an ego the size of the solar system completely dumbfounded by why she and her friends are failing in the dating world but little does she realize that her standards are too high and the way she described herself made her seem very unattractive/undesirable... and the commenters let her know pretty fast lol.
here it is - www.forbes.com/.../#448d00e478010
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm being really nice in my reply so please excuse whatever you consider abrasive. First, I think in general men want a passive partner a submissive partner so they feel superior, so they can feel superior. Unfortunately too many women fall into the trap of being submissive and when asked especially on websites such as this one, they claim they want to be passive or submissive or basically plainly stupid. That's the mold they think they are supposed to fit. So my answer to your question is yes men are scared of accomplishment when it applies to the opposite sex.
These are not the kind of man you want to hang around. And you don't have to four if you place yourself in situations where guys are comfortable with themselves and their accomplishments you will not intimidate them. So my answer is in addition to my first response, you are hanging around the wrong kind of guys. And don't tell me you're not because obviously the response you getting proves my point. I'm going into my senior year of college and while I don't know everyplace in Manhattan or Rochester I can tell you that there are places in both cities where dumb guys go and they don't like seeing intelligent or accomplished women there. And there are places that attract accomplished women and accomplished men and those men are not intimidated by a woman who presents as confident or accomplished or intelligent. So if you find that the kind of men you seem to find are intimidated by you, then you need to move on. It's not you you are not the problem, rather it is the situation where the locale that needs to be changed. The most overt and black-and-white situation I can think of is if you're going for your masters degree in chemistry don't hang around a pool hall.1