Are men intimidated by accomplished women? Guys that I have spoken to in the would always talk to me about what they've accomplished and the moment I talk about my own they kinda grow silent. Makes me wonder? Does it make men feel less Masculine when a woman is more ambitious and accomplished? I don't brag about my accomplishments I actually present myself normally, always cracking jokes and laughing and being really nice and I usually praise the other person for their accomplishments.
Usually women who are "accomplished" have way higher standards and think too highly of themselves. I would love to date a woman with her shit together but I know she wouldn't want to date someone like me who doesn't have his all worked out yet (and she probably wouldn't have the patience to wait for me to figure it out - I'd still try to date her though but from past experiences... girls don't care if you're improving they want you to be successful already lol).
Sure some guys have egos but the main problem is what that particular woman wants is unrealistic, there's a really good article I read last year written by this woman with an ego the size of the solar system completely dumbfounded by why she and her friends are failing in the dating world but little does she realize that her standards are too high and the way she described herself made her seem very unattractive/undesirable... and the commenters let her know pretty fast lol.
I'm being really nice in my reply so please excuse whatever you consider abrasive. First, I think in general men want a passive partner a submissive partner so they feel superior, so they can feel superior. Unfortunately too many women fall into the trap of being submissive and when asked especially on websites such as this one, they claim they want to be passive or submissive or basically plainly stupid. That's the mold they think they are supposed to fit. So my answer to your question is yes men are scared of accomplishment when it applies to the opposite sex. These are not the kind of man you want to hang around. And you don't have to four if you place yourself in situations where guys are comfortable with themselves and their accomplishments you will not intimidate them. So my answer is in addition to my first response, you are hanging around the wrong kind of guys. And don't tell me you're not because obviously the response you getting proves my point. I'm going into my senior year of college and while I don't know everyplace in Manhattan or Rochester I can tell you that there are places in both cities where dumb guys go and they don't like seeing intelligent or accomplished women there. And there are places that attract accomplished women and accomplished men and those men are not intimidated by a woman who presents as confident or accomplished or intelligent. So if you find that the kind of men you seem to find are intimidated by you, then you need to move on. It's not you you are not the problem, rather it is the situation where the locale that needs to be changed. The most overt and black-and-white situation I can think of is if you're going for your masters degree in chemistry don't hang around a pool hall.
Scared or intimidated is always the wrong word for these kinds of instances. Vast majority of men are never afraid of women, regardless of the womens accomplishments/status or her looks.
Even with taller women, vast majority of guys are just way way stronger than any woman and that male dominance trait we have just makes us feel like women cannot compete in the same way.
However, i agree that many men will back off if a woman is known to be very ackomplished, in a higher position or if she starts bragging. And the reason is almost always because we dont want to bother talking with someone who is likely to have a huge ego (this is true if we meet a guy who is way more successful as well) But the difference i guess is that when talking to a man there is no risk of the guy assuming you are trying to hit on him, the woman might think we are interested in more if we talk to her, but if she talked to me first then i wouldn't have any issue responding, but most of us assume high achieving women have to much attitude so we just dont bother being social with them unless they approach first.
Women are hypergamous, as men well know. That is, women want the tallest, wealthiest, best educated, most high status man they can get. The Nurse and the Doctor. The Secretary and the Lawyer.
Men know that if they date down, they will have a much easier time in dating. Such as, a 6ft tall guy dating a 5ft tall girl, or a office guy dating a waitress, or a somewhat handsome guy dating a chubby girl.
If a woman has a high education, it doesn't matter if she's still paying off 50k for a degree that landed her a 30k a year job. It will puff her ego up, that she's got a masters or whatever. It will detract from how she looks at a man. And frankly, your degree just doesn't do it for us, even as we know it removes how awesome we might look. So we don't want to bother.
They may not be turned off by success. It may be the bragging (or passive bragging). So many girls say "I'm not bragging but..." and then they immediately just start bragging since literally no one was asking about their accomplishments. THAT is a turn off.
personally i have never meet anyone in person who was like you described so i dont know how i would react to them. in general no matter who they are i try to treat everyone with dignity and respect. since i have never actually meet a women like that i think i would be interested in getting to now her better. even if it was just for friendship. off the record with your age if i did try to be friends with you my wife would probable beat the crap out of me. she is the jealous type.
Prejudiced men are not always accomplished. I wouldn't mind if the chick I like is much more accomplished than me... But yeah, accomplished women have massive egos, which you won't find in accomplished men all the time. And I have no illusions that women want their partners to be less successful than them. To prevent this situation from arising, I have this principle, I never persue women out of my current league... And if I'm way ahead of the chick I date, I usually break up and try scoring with someone superior.
I'll admit I probably would be if said accomplishments were at the gym (bench pressing more than me for instance), but apart from that I wouldn't be. I don't get the issue with a girl making more money than a guy.
Some are, some aren't. Personally I love ambitious and successful women but I think where these women often go wrong is that they only look for men who are even more successful and ambitious than them, even ignoring men who are equally successful and ambitious, then they complain they can't find a man...
Speaking as someone who has a PhD I will say that if a man is insecure he will be threatened by it. I've dated a few guys like this who turned it into an issue when there was never one in the first place. I'm like you in that I don't brag about what I've done and I'm pretty laidback and relaxed. When I get asked about what I do I'm going to say it but I don't get hung up on it and make it into a huge deal. I've also dated guys who respected me for it but they were confident so it didn't intimidate them one bit.
Yes, because it threatens their ego and they want u to need them, if they are a real man. Most men nowadays want their woman to pay half the bills and birth their children and keep them excited and be mysterious etc etc which is a lot of work. It really depends on how successful the man is themselves I suppose.
Some of them are afraid of such women.
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