I am 24 years old and have been in this odd relationship with a guy who is 26 since October 2009. He moved in with me in October and we have been... Show More
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Friends With Benefits is never a good idea because one person always ends up wanting more. I am speaking from experience. You really aren't comfortable having sex outside of a relationship, but you continue in the hopes that maybe he'll come around. The fact that he tells you that he loves you, but changes his behavior around other people and insists that you aren't his girlfriend is only torturing you emotionally. This relationship is only going to damage you to the point that you are going to have serious trust issues in other relationships that you have down the line. He probably won't kiss you because he may believe that it's something you do only in a committed relationship. There are a lot of people out there that feel this way.
As to why he is acting like this? He was probably screwed over by someone he cared about in the past and while he probably vowed that he would never let anything like that happen to him again somehow he made it okay to go out and screw over somebody else (you).
This guy has no right to be telling you that he loves you because what you two have is not love. Somebody who loves you would never whisper sweet nothings into your ear one moment and then deny that you're together the next. Someone who loves you will want to kiss you every chance they get. Someone who loves you will commit to you. Someone who loves you will not treat your relationship like it's a dirty little secret.
So, get out now before this relationship hurts you any further. Pining away for a relationship that is never going to happen is going to do you no good and is only keeping you from moving on to a relationship with someone who will care for you. Don't waste any more time with this guy.