In the past I have been told that I can be seen as "intimidating" because of the way that I live life.
I have travelled almost constantly as a solo female and have done things such as hitch through Asia and live on a deserted beach in a hammock, work in the Australian outback on a mine, run jungle survival skill schools and paddle 200km across an ocean on a self made raft.
I often find that when I talk to guys about myself (they ask, I don't brag) about what I do they either become somewhat stand offish and I don't hear from them again or the relationship never gets past a friendship. Those who I have become friends with have told me that I would be "intimidating" to have as a girlfriend because I have done so much stuff that they would feel like I had "beaten" and emasculated them.
Without blowing my horn I am quite an attractive person with a slim body shape so I don't think that it is my looks putting people off.
What is your opinion? Would you find it difficult to date someone like me because you would feel emasculated and like I had "beaten" you in the life game? :/
Apologies if my post seems rather arrogant. I'm just interested in your opinion and thought is best be honest to see what you really think.
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Being awesome is awesome, some guys are just pussies.2
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There are probably some guys who no doubt feel that way, but I wouldn't assume that's the main reason for guys who are successful in their own lives.
- It could be that your lifestyle is one that they don't feel is compatible with their own. If you travel constantly, not everyone is going to be okay with being long-distance so often. They want someone who's going to be around.
- It could be that there's something in your personality that's off-putting. If they're becoming standoffish once you talk about what you do, maybe the way you talk about it is coming off as self-important or condescending.
There's not much you can do about guys who are intimidated, but if you're still having issues appealing to the rest, I would consider those above two reasons.