I am confident, but shy AND introverted. However, I do know how to be social and enjoy it (kind of fake being an extrovert). I take a long time to open up and get to know. I am as passionate and wild and silly as the next girl, but I won't show it for months. In the past, guys show a lot of interest in me easily at first, but as weeks and months go by, they seem to lose that passion and persistence they had with me in the beginning. Ultimately, they just stop talking to me all together. I fear they all think I am boring and not worth the awkward stages. I am too shy and therefore too much effort I think. There has never been a "click" moment where I've felt it was right with a guy. Never had a boyfriend/24 years old.
Is it a turn of no not in its self. If you lie about being social and an extrovert then that is a turn off. You sound like a lot of my female freinds right now. They are looking but no one is biting. We have agreed that it is because most of the good guys are either to hurt from women kicking them after they try Most good guy's who see a girl that they find attractive won't approach her and flirt or ask for her for a date because they learned not to. So many of my guy friends myself included has to know a women for a bit to even consider wanting to ask her out. Mostly because of our standards which are not to high but we still have them. a lot of people also do this to avoid the awkward stage where they don't know you and you don't know them at all. Try joining a small mixed group where you have to get to know everyone. Like a hobby group, small sports group, or a small church group. I tried online dating and I just kept getting lied to way to often so I just went back to the old fashion way. Which is harder but more rewarding. You just have to be more social and willing to get out there and look.
Back when I was younger it wasn't but now a days yes it is. Since i dont have time to be trying to read a gir) like a book anymore. I've already paid my dues in that regards and I can happily say out going girls make things so much easier on the R ship /friendship since I won't have to be the q entertaining her all day long lol
No, they're not a turn off. But it depends on how you act around him too and how long it gets you to get comfortable. It can get quite exhausting if it feels one sided to the guy. If he's the only one trying to keep the conversation going and you just answer with yes or no like a first grader and don't say anything else, he's obviously not going to enjoy himself very much. If you're at least making an effort and we can see that you are, even if you're failing, then it's no problem if you're shy. Normally, we'll understand as long as we see some effort. Otherwise, the guy might think you're just not interested enough and move on.
Have you tried to be this honest or straight forward with a guy before? I'm an introvert too, yet I'm very understanding when a woman gets this honest and vulnerable with me. This is something I could treasure.
Not at all. I've dated shy women. Truth be told, I preferred them over some of the more extroverted women that I dated. Just keep in mind, shy girls tend to come off as uninterested in you, and uninteresting as a person. You can be shy, but show that you're interested in the guy. Also, try to keep a conversation going with him.
The thing if you are what you are.. Don't change yourself.. Don't fake anything
By the way I can give your a tip... Like if you have a group of friends then go out with them and enjoy... Don't give a fuck what others agree thinking about you... You will notice that you are getting cool everyday.. And you will become a bit extroverted slowly
It is not a problem at all , the guy who wants to stay with u he must discover u , if he can't do it then he didn't deserve it , however I guess u should give people around u a space to get closer to u don't make yr shyness feeling pushing then away , but u totally fine , I like the girls who feel like u , sorry for my bad English skills 😊
Lol no. In no shape, way or form are they a turn off. I like shy girls the most because they're just so cute. However, when you don't open up to us we assume that you aren't interested in us. You need to try and take some chances every once in a while and I guarantee that you'll see guys have more interest in you.
Not to me, you just have to find the right guy in my opinion. The girl I'm with right now was super shy in the beginning, and still won't do some stuff with me after about a year, but I still love her and I love every moment with her in developing our relationship everyday
Not at all, I personally find shy girls very attractive. I have my own preferences when it comes to physical attractiveness, but what I've noticed about shy women is that they are very compassionate and polite, two of the personality traits that I find attractive in women. I am a very shy guy when it comes to talking to women. I think those guys just think your not interested in them, did you find any of those guys attractive? Don't worry I think you'll find a guy that likes you for who you are.
Well if you're that shy, prolly guys just give up on you cuz they think you're not interested.. But regarding your question, I don't think it's a turn off, and actually I think that will lead you to the most confident guys.. cuz they don't give up easily!
So let me get this straight, this guy chases you for months and you don't give anything about yourself. You don't show a lot of interest and you are surprised guys don't show interest either? I would've done the same thing if I was that guy and a girl gave me the cold shoulder/hard to get treatment for months. Months are long you know. Not many people are that determined. Maybe a few serious stalkers. You have to take off your mask if you want a guy to get close to you. You should put yourself in their situation and see what you can change. You're an introvert, that's okay and you can't really change where you feel pleasant with, but you can change that ice queen attitude. I don't want to sound mean or anything, but it sounds like you've got more a problem in trusting people rather than shyness. I also don't know how serious the situation is, but know that you can do something about your behaviour.
I've seen this question before and the same responses, most guys are not turned off by it. Lucky for me because I guess I could say I am a confident introvert too. I am not so shy I don't speak at all, I just do have a hard time initiating conversations and maybe being flirtatious and affectionate at first but it isn't debilitating and the older I get the less shy I become.
You sound like you may be a lovely person, but honestly, the initial stages of a relationship are really important to establish whether the chemistry is there or not and the shyness complicates things because it may mask a connection. The connection needs to be felt by the other sides for him to wanna keep pursuing/fight for because most people dont wanna work hard for the potential of nothing there being a very real possibility as far as we can tell. That being said, there are plenty of guys who appreciate shy girls as feminine and maturely cautious, so it could be luck of what men you've encountered so far. Can you describe what it's like around guys for you? Like how does your shyness manifest?