It is really frustrating that the man has to always be the "aggressor". I, unfortunately, have to date. I am online. I have tried just leaving my profile out there to let the woman make the first move. I get very few messages and only 1 from someone I was interested in. But if I make the first move, I get plenty of replies. I wish women would come after me like I am expected to go after them. it would be a nice change.
Women are not children if they want a date they don't need permission, 'traditional' dating rules are very antiquated and patronizing towards women. I can understand some guys wanting to hold onto it-bc they get to control her and some guys need to feel like they control other people because they feel weak themselves- but i don't get why women encourage or accept or tolerate it. If a person can not act on their own will but instead rely upon anothers, make their own decision, control their own actions... What separates them from a pet?
Seems a waste and incredibly irrational, to spend decades becoming an adult, just to play the role of a child.
A woman can make the first move on a guy and initiate something like a date but she should not chase him if he doesn't take up the slack after. Also if she wants to ask some one out she should be SURE he's not a player. Because a player will play someone they don't really like.
If I don't know the guy the most I might do is invite him to hang out in a safe kind of out of the house activity preferably a group thing.