looking at the past guys that i've dated, they all share the same traits that made our relationship not work out. it feels doomed that i'll ever find a guy i'm attracted to who *doesn't* have those deal breaker traits. so is it possible to change your "type"? nd can u give me examples if it's happened to u
Can you describe your type, specifically the traits that caused problems?
I don't know if you're aware, but there have been studies where they ask women to rate men's attractiveness in pictures, and simply standing near an expensive care raises the man's average score. This isn't women saying 'well he looks ugly but i'd date him to get money'. They actually thought he was more attractive. Why? Did women evolve to find mercedes sexually arousing? Clearly not. So what's going on? Well I'd suggest that women DID evolve to find signs of power and success attractive. That instinctive trait, combined with their -conscious- brain thinking mercedes = success/status, combine to shift their attraction.
Why do i bring this up? There are likely some core things deep down you find attractive in men, and those core things won't shift much. On the other hand, you you -see- those traits is impacted by your thinking. So if a woman, for example, keeps dating drug dealers, she probably sees them as powerful rebels who are tough and brave. And they're shitbags and she has crappy relationships. Can she stop finding tough, powerful, brave guys hot? Probably not. Can she convince herself that drug dealers are in fact short sighted hot tempered immature idiots, and NOT truly powerful? Perhaps, yes, and that would kill her attraction to them.
yeah, i think so. i used to like muscular short guys and now i love tall guys that don't have to be that muscular. it's because i lost a lot of weight so i don't need guys to be huge so that they're bigger than me. i think your type while change as you get older and wiser because your taste will develop.
i do both consciously and unconsciously. you can decide that you want to date a different type of person. but you can also just change who your type is as you grow older and you as a person change (tastes, expectations, etc)
I think you can change your type, it takes effort but you could quickly find your attracted to more then the initial characteristics of your "type" you can also choose to look beyond those initial characteristics to what you really want in the end.
It's kind of like fast food, you want that hamburger but if you look beyond the initial attraction it's not going to benefit you. That salad may not have the same attraction but in the long run it will benefit you the way you want.
I think you can change your type but you need their other positives to outweigh the negatives. I mean I won't lie - if a legit 10/10 girl was slightly dumb, her looks help me overlook that fact, even though I prefer intelligent women.
for me the fist girl friend was the first to say yes to going out with me. the second one was what i thought i wanted (looks) when that didn't work out i changed what i was looking for. thats when i started looking at personality more than looks. thats when i found the person i finally married.
You CAN change your type, but you have to act in the same way and do the same things toward your new type as you did towards your old type.
In other words, if you watched videos of thug rappers and that was your old type, then you have to spend just as much time watching Boy Bands (LOL) if that's your new type. If you jilled to pictures of punk rockers, now you have to Jill to whatever your new type is, etc.
Yes. For example before I only dated girls who were fashionable. But then I met this girl, she was so simple that even the ugliest clothes she wear and still she looks beautiful then that changed my type. Before I only went for looks but then found this girl who was funny and now I start to find funny girls.
It is possible but it doesn't always mean things will work out. I've changed and tried to go for nice guys but they still don't want me or want to commit to me. So it's easier dating bad boys, at least i know what I'm in for. Just keep yourself open to different kinds of guys and see where it takes you.
Yeah, pay attention more to personnality, communicate and when you're attrcated to this guy try and see if he has those trait that u don't like, it's pretty easy now i guess because u know what u don't like so... yeah just find a way to know the persons personality better and how u say it seems like the problem is from the guy but... maybe the problme is from u too, i dunno i'm just saying haha ♥