looking at the past guys that i've dated, they all share the same traits that made our relationship not work out. it feels doomed that i'll ever find a guy i'm attracted to who *doesn't* have those deal breaker traits. so is it possible to change your "type"? nd can u give me examples if it's happened to u
Most Helpful Guy
Can you describe your type, specifically the traits that caused problems?
I don't know if you're aware, but there have been studies where they ask women to rate men's attractiveness in pictures, and simply standing near an expensive care raises the man's average score. This isn't women saying 'well he looks ugly but i'd date him to get money'. They actually thought he was more attractive. Why? Did women evolve to find mercedes sexually arousing? Clearly not. So what's going on? Well I'd suggest that women DID evolve to find signs of power and success attractive. That instinctive trait, combined with their -conscious- brain thinking mercedes = success/status, combine to shift their attraction.
Why do i bring this up? There are likely some core things deep down you find attractive in men, and those core things won't shift much. On the other hand, you you -see- those traits is impacted by your thinking. So if a woman, for example, keeps dating drug dealers, she probably sees them as powerful rebels who are tough and brave. And they're shitbags and she has crappy relationships. Can she stop finding tough, powerful, brave guys hot? Probably not. Can she convince herself that drug dealers are in fact short sighted hot tempered immature idiots, and NOT truly powerful? Perhaps, yes, and that would kill her attraction to them.
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Most Helpful Girl
yeah, i think so. i used to like muscular short guys and now i love tall guys that don't have to be that muscular. it's because i lost a lot of weight so i don't need guys to be huge so that they're bigger than me. i think your type while change as you get older and wiser because your taste will develop.1