This girl and I have been "dating" for the past year or 2, I've asked her to be my girlfriend plenty of but she says the same thing all the time and I've been getting tired of this. We haven't really been through much, because this whole relationship has been built through text messages and phone calls (I've only seen her once in my entire life). I still have feelings for her, but the reality of this whole relationship just appears to be very surreal. I met this girl at church not too long ago, and I feel like I'm beginning to like her. Her and I have an equal passion for music and health, she's pursuing a career in Dentistry, and I'm pursuing a career in Sports Medicine. She's in my city, her and I can hang out without waiting for next school break to hang out. It still hurts me, because even though the other girl isn't physically with me or my girlfriend I feel like I'm cheating by being with the girl in my city.
I feel like I'm cheating?
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In all honesty I'd explain to her that the relationship isn't going anywhere, and end it. You can't hold onto someone who has been with you for 2 years , but yet is still indecisive about you. That's ridiculous. That would make me question her infidelity. I don't believe you'll be exclusive to her.
Texting and calling each other isn't a relationship it's only really a friendship. Unless one of you makes a sacrifice to move near the other one then it'll never be anything other than a friendship.
You should pursue the girl in real life. It's not progressing with the other girl , because she is stalling all if the time. It would be wrong to be deceitful by pursuing both girls, so I'd end it with the online girl.1
You have to be honest with the first girl because it sounds like you have way more in common with the dentist girl from your area and the bonus being that I assume you can see her more than the girl you have only seen once. You're not cheating if you only talk to this girl but if you feel you are getting serious about the dentist lady you really do have to tell the other girl and say that it's not that you don't like her because you do but you've only met once and being more local to this other person has given you more to bond over and you can spend more time with her and right now that's what you think you need in your life, but you would like it if you can remain friends with her, but that you also understand if she doesn't feel like she can be friends with you, but you hope in time that she will come around to the idea and maybe get back in touch when/if ready (or something similar to all of that) but do it before you get to a stage where what you are doing with this dentist woman does become cheating - anything from kissing to dating to sexting or sleeping with this new girl you like before you tell the first girl what's happening.2
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