I haven't brought this up yet but my boyfriend is still friends with his ex on Facebook. I have noticed he unfollowed her on Instagram when we started to date. But I don't like her being on his social media.
I am probably different but I don't stay friends with any of my ex's because I think it will cause any problems with new partners. Even if we break up on good terms I explain that I don't think staying friends on social media is a good idea.
So would it bother you that they keep in contact with their ex's?
- Yes, I wouldn't like it58% (40)45% (17)53% (57)Vote
- No, wouldn't bother me30% (21)45% (17)36% (38)Vote
- Other answer12% (8)10% (4)11% (12)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I'd talk about it and want to understand their relationship. Some exes being friends on social media is a non issue. Others can be problematic and cause undo stress. For the most part, I've never been bothered by it. And I'm also friends with ex gfs on social media. What I'm more concerned with is their actual relationship. Do they talk and hangout? How long and deep was the relationship? Who broke up with who and why? Are they in the same group of friends and constantly around? Those questions matter more in terms of discerning whether or not it's good or bad that they still have any contact.0
Most Helpful Girl
If he claims thats his past then he needs to cut all ties with her which meaning to remove from anything that will have him in contact with her. Many say they wouldn't be bothered but lets me real. Someone leaving you for someone else because one click of a button can go a long way. Not saying that'll stop him from making whatever moves he wanted but overtime you'll forget about that person. But from experience, someone keeping their ex- on social media i don't care what anyone says they still care. I was involved with a guy and when we were off and on he would remove me off all of his social media then added me back. He knew we were going to get back so he played that act just for the hell of it. Now when it was completely over he made sure he kept a tab on all my social media accounts. I post a picture on instagram he doesn't like it but ik he'll see it on his timeline. Automatically since he refrains from watching my snapchat video i see that all of a sudden he viewed the video the same minute i posted a picture on instagram. Long story short, ask him questions before you approach him about still following his ex-. At the end of the day don't allow his past to ruin you guys future because of "social media". Talk it out and come to a conclusion allow him to make the decision without you forcing him to or breathing on his neck.. We'll see who's the real man.0