Also, is sending mixed signals at the beginning of dating a sign of somebody being emotionally unavailable?
Most Helpful Guy
Their emotions are shut down due to being hurt in some fashion... a relationship failing, losing a loved one, etc.. It takes time to heal to be available. Basically, they cannot extend their internal feelings to someone else because they are hurting.
mixed signals could be various things. It should be apparent if you met them if they are emotionally not available.. typically... at least if you try to get close to know them.0
Most Helpful Girl
Let's start from the beginning. Nothing, not a person nor an event "makes" a person emotionally unavailable. The person him or herself chooses to be emotionally unavailable. I know what I just said sounds lame... But it is very important to understand that. Because once you understand that at a deep gut level you can go on to have the ability to move on to the next level. That being fear. Yes FEAR. Fear of being hurt again. The person in question chooses to be emotionally unavailable because they do not want to get involved because they were hurt so badly at some point in time by somebody else that they live in fear of getting involved and getting hurt again and it is that fear that is blocking their ability to get let's call it entangled again. All of what I said above is very deep. Deep is the wrong word. The better word is profound. Deep sounds too melodramatic. Let's start over. All of the above is profoundly important for it describes a basic human problem and a basic human emotion. Fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of being abandoned which would result in being alone. Fear of being emotionally attached and then cut off and then being alone. How to defend oneself against that basic human emotion of fear of being alone is to not allow yourself to become emotionally attached. All of that equals "emotionally unavailable." So fear of being emotionally abandoned results in being emotionally unavailable and that is a defense mechanism that all human beings have.2