we started talking like 3 weeks ago on social media. He's 27, from another country and moved here a year and a half ago. We spent this weekend together at his place for hours. No sex, just making out and talking until the sunrise. I was truly falling for him. He told me he was cheated on badly before and so he doesn't know if he is ready for a relationship and doesn't trust anyone. I went through something similar, which he knows. And then I caught him talking to this girl on social media, (she was a fake account made by me) and flirting with her and saying he hadn't met anyone recently and that he is looking for people to spend time with, and that he is single.
soo, I messaged him and said I really was beginning to like you, but jokes on me. And he acted clueless, and I sent him the messages and said she was my friend. I sent him messages saying I don't want to be used, and if he doesn't like me and is looking to meet other girls he should just tell me. I was assertive, and I stated what I expected from him. That when I talk with one person it's only one person, that's that. Anyways, we talked it through and yes we aren't dating and he may or may not see others. But then he said we can continue talking but we should not meet again. I tried to talk him trough it and let it slide, but again he said he keeps thinking of how I attacked him and used the word "using me" and it isn't a good start to us and he thinks we shouldn't see each other again (for now).
Im heartbroken. Was I in the wrong because I expected to be treated as someone's only one even if we aren't dating? Why would you look for someone else if you're interested in another person? Did I ruin everything?
He he texted me after, carrying on a normal conversation... But I don't know if we aren't going to see each other.. What's the point?
Nooo scratch that. I don't even CARE if he doesn't talk to me anymore. He told me all he wanted was someone to be with him, more than sexually and always there when he got back from work and whatever. And I was going o give him that, or attempt to give it a REAL shot. How can you give someone a real shot if you're seeing other people? You aren't. I'm not into that. I DESERVE someone who meets me and says I don't even want to meet anyone else bc right now im focused on you. THATS whats true.
You weren't in the wrong because you caught him in a lie, however it may seem like you were attacking him, he probably said this because he was embarassed, its true you two weren't dating and weren't talking abut being exclusive, but if thats how he wants it clearly he didn't fight for it or want to see you enough to let this one thing slide. You can tell him that there is no point tin chatting if he doesn't think you two should see each other, you're not living a virtual life with him.
When someone tells you that they are not ready for a relationship, that means that they want to see other people too. This should've been clear to you from the start, I'm not sure why are you surprised? He didn't lied about anything, he just could've been more clear about what exactly is he looking for. But guys don't dig deep into stuff like that, it's us girls who read between the lines. That's why we ask stuff. If you already made effort to make a fake account, that means you had your doubts from the start. Instead of making fake account, you should just ask a guy. Seriously.
The point is you are with a player. He has no interest in you anymore than he has interest in somebody else. What you did was kind of dumb but at least you learned something about this guy. I'd love to know what countries from because there are a few countries where all the players seem to be born. That's very prejudice of me but I'd still like to know lol. Don't fall for this guy you'll be part of his harem not his girlfriend and you're going to get hurt
If you're not exclusive you have no right to get upset with him for talking to other women. That's the whole point of dating. You'd date til you find one you like enough to stop talking to others. It doesn't happen over night. You probably freaked him out so I would say no it's not repairable. Your best bet is to back off and let him come to you.
You were being crazy! You literally just attacked a guy that was clear you weren't dating for talking to another girl. He's still talking so you may meet again but I don't see him wanting to be with someone that is that crazy before your together.