Bottom line: Been seeing this guy, sorta dating him for almost 9 months now and because of many abandonments and hurtful things that happened to him he isn't ready for a relationship and says for once in his life he doesn't want to be tied to someone. He says he loves hanging out with me, he buys me food a lot, the sex, my mind is most attractive to him but he refuses to call me his girlfriend because he doesn't think he can give me what I want and I've brought it up numerous times.
Do you think withholding sex will get him to step up his game?
If not, what should I do?
- Yea, it will probably work!6% (1)7% (1)6% (2)Vote
- Maybe, it could and it could not11% (2)20% (3)15% (5)Vote
- No, it just won't (If not please say what might?)72% (13)27% (4)52% (17)Vote
- It might have an effect on him but probably won't work11% (2)46% (7)27% (9)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
Want to know a reverse psychology secret? Don't make it a big deal anymore, if he won't call you his girlfriend, then tell him directly that you no longer want to be called that and it really doesn't matter anymore. He's using it as a means to be in control much like an abuser uses fear to control a person, not saying his abusive but he is controlling you knowing that it's something important you want to hear, so outwardly stop caring about it and he'll be curious as to why the change, then you can stop doing other things too, make it so you are not being taken for granted, by owning yourself more and he'll be the one with the insecurity as he loses control.2
Most Helpful Girl
Umm I'm going through this pain right now. I'm in love with a guy who's not ready for a relationship either. I waited around for over two years and it's still not happening. I've decided I can't be his friend right now because it hurts too much.1