I am in a fairly long term relationship with my boy. There are times when I want to go through his phone to look at his text messages. I know a lot of people would frown upon it, but sometimes I have these uncontrollable urges where I want to look at his texts especially with a couple of his female friends in particular. I know these girls personally and I know there isn't anything to worry about, but I can't help but wonder what they talk about considering they text pretty frequently (about once and day) and are really close to each other. One of the reasons behind them texting frequently is because these two girls are in another country and and we see them once a year generally and he is quite fond of them as they are old university friends. Am I being illogical about wanting to see his phone?
If I say that I know there isn't anything to worry about, I think that makes it pretty clear about the fact that I do trust him. Me wanting to see the texts are more to do with curiosity about what could they possibly talk about that they need to text each other every day. It is more to do with curiosity rather than trust.
Most Helpful Guy
At your age, calling him "my boy" sounds condescending. That may not be what you intend, but that is how it sounds. A successful relationship requires love, trust, and respect. At this point, you don't trust him and you don't respect him, so I would suggest that you not be planning a wedding any time soon. This relationship may never get that far!3
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Most Helpful Girl
Yes you are, and this is coming from someone who is insecure. I feel like my boyfriend can do better than me because he is hot, and I am plain. However, he is very devoted to me. He only has eyes for me. I've never gotten jealous of him and his female friends, and I've never wanted to look at his texts. There have been times when he'll show me a text and say: "Oh look at what so and so sent me," but otherwise I've never had the urge to snoop through his texts. I thought I was bad with my insecurties, but you seem to take it to a completely different level.0