I am 21. I only recently started dating and I don't go for every girl I see. I am naturally funny, I am intelligent, and there's a lot of depth to my personality---but maybe too much. You see, I've tried going out with girls younger than me and girls older than me and, I don't know, are girls my age just looking around to have some fun, nothing serious? I mean, I AM fun and I don't take things too seriously, but as soon as things start to maybe get a little more serious, the girls eject and I never hear from them again.
The youngest I've dated is an 18 year old; the oldest is 23. The 23 year old surprised me because she didn't seem so "naive", in that she knew what she was getting into, and yet as soon as we got closer and closer, she ejected. That one hurt the most because she was the farthest I've gone with other girls.
I know I shouldn't generalize ages and that every person is different. But sometimes I feel so alienated because even though I'm funny and a little cocky (a good mix for getting girls interested, I might add) it just feels like that because in my heart I'm a close-to-home nice guy, that girls don't want to get serious with me because they know that I'll be serious. If that makes sense.
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Well, I am 19, almost 20, and I can definitely see that most of the girls out there just wanna have fun. Just like that song
That's why I think its important to be friends first. You get to know the girl first, and you can make the call of what she will probably do, you know?1