I've always wondered about this. Even though I always offer to pay, I don't understand why if you set up a meet up with someone you met online, we men are expected to pay. I have been on countless numerous of dates from online site OKC, and everything seems to go great. I always end up paying, and majority of women don't even offer to split the bill. Mind you, this is the first time meeting this stranger, which I have no idea if it will lead to a second or third date. I understand that we men look more like gentleman's when we pay, but what do we do when we're spending money on dates with strangers that lead no where at all. How donwe avoid this. I have tries numerous way of meeting women in like coffee shops and going for a coffee or a few drinks which seems less expensive, but we always end up going to a place where I'm spending 60 to 70 bucks on meals. Again, I'm not saying I don't want to pay for a woman. Yes, I would be more than happy to pay for a woman that I'm dating casually, but it's its just the results of these first strings-a-long dates, that have me thinking twice now.
I understand exactly where you are coming from & it makes plenty of sense that you would feel this way. I almost don't know what to tell you. If you don't offer to pay then you'll seem like a cheap guy or even a jerk. Guys should pay for first dates because they want to make a good impression & show that they are chivalrous gentlemen that can take care of their women. To save money on these dates that hardly ever work out I'd say for your first time meeting how about a park. You could take a walk and get to know each other. First dates do not have to be dinner. You're only just meeting up so make it less formal & more casual. It doesn't even have to be a date, just a meetup & if you two spark then you could ask her on a date. I'd prefer to meet at a park. It removes the pressure & the atmosphere is calm & great for getting to know someone new.
Hmm yeah that is tricky. I think that's kind of the responsibility of the girl. For example, if I felt a date wasn't going well I'd put my card out and say we'll split it. But if I feel it's going well I'll let him pay. But it's tricky from your point of view because if you were to tell the waitress to split it you would look rude. Lol
If you invited me to go to a restaurant with you, you pay. That simple. The one who invites should always pay, if no one invited, everyone should just pay for what they're having. If you can't afford to pay for her dinner or are too greedy, don't ask her to go to a restaurant with you in the first place and just go for a walk instead.
I don't get it I mean you're both there to have a good time and why should you treat someone like your bank account I think I should pay my own way because there are more important things to spend your money on than me just my opinion
No, fight the power and make women start paying for dates. They wanted equal pay well they can equally pay for our food. It's the men's turn to order the most expensive thing on the menu! Also, make her feel guilty if she doesn't buy you jewelry on Valentine's or your birthday.
Hell yeah he should! We should pay for every date for at least 3-4 months, when you know you can consider a couple! And there is no need for spending 70 bucks for a meal, there are a lot of restaurants where you will get a first, a second and a contour for 20 euros each person.