I had a friend some years ago who asked me to be his girlfriend. We only went in for 3 months and I only met one of his friends. He met my mom but I never met his parents.
We never had sex so when he dumped me it I only felt upset because I wanted an explanation but if I actually had sex with him I would feel pumped and dump
He is now in a long term serious relationship
I believe I made the smart decision to not have sex with him, so what wrong with making a guy wait for sex for 6 months that you are in a relationship with to make sure he is for real?
I have never made a guy wait 6 months for sex I was just asking based on my previous experience. I have only been in two relationships that lasted less than 6 months so we never had sex. Also I do not lead guys on so if a guy is waiting for sex in a relationship it's because he chose to
I think it's up to you really whatever you want to do, sure there's going to be those twats who would leave if you didn't have sex right away, and some who even if you gave it early would still be with you. it shouldn't be necessarily about the sex, it should be the person that you are and that depends on finding a good person suited for you.
I think you could know someone well enough in a month or two. Six months is a long time to wait for me, but if I also see the relationship is worth waiting for, then no problem. See, this is the other thing you have to remember, maybe you aren't what he was looking for, sex or no sex.
If that's what you're looking for in a relationship, and you've expressed yourself clearly with any kind who is on the potential verge of becoming your boyfriend. Then it is absolutely acceptable, and understanding. However, if I was starting to date a girl and she said no to sex for 6 months without any type of warning and it was perceived that I would like to go down that path at a much earlier state in the relationship and she didn't voice herself. Then there would be some problems. 1-2 months of waiting is fine. Anymore than that for when I was single. Definitely put a damper in the relationship, and it wasn't for me. Nothing wrong with your decision, but a lot of guys's have different desires on a time frame to which they want to have sex and that's fair. You just need to find a guy who also wants to wait as well.
Well I generally assume most girls have had sex with guys by the third date or sooner so if she wants me to wait over 6 months I feel like a sucker and like she's not as attracted to me as she was with her previous partners.
It's your right to want to wait, but its the guys right to leave and find someone else.
There is nothing wrong with it intact a lot of people want to wait these days. You chose to wait and he did not so he broke up with you because of it. There was nothing wrong with it he just never wanted to wait for you.
You made a terrible mistake. It's selfish and childish to wait more than a month in a relationship. I promise you he felt like he was doing all the giving and very little of the taking. I'd have left you much sooner than he did.
the fact that when you do this you basically tell the guy ' you have nothing to say in our sex life, we only have sex when i want to' i think it is totally being inconsiderate of his emotions if you do this.
Other than him moving on to a girl that trusts him, and actually wants to have sex with him, instead of seeing all sex as a man in some way taking advantage of a woman? If you want to wait for sex, that is fine, but your reasoning is screwed up. It sounds like you have some serious issues with men.
You don't wait "6 months" you wait until you are ready. Setting an exact time limit on each guy you are with sounds more like a mind game that you are just forcing him to play along with to test him, which is very insulting. It shows that you really don't have any faith in him, or great desire to be with him.
There's nothing WRONG with it, if that's your choice and your decision, but I personally don't think it's a good judge of how serious or how good of a guy he is. I've had sex with guys within the first 3 days of seeing them, and many of them have turned into long term relationships. Guys will like sex whether they're looking for a serious relationship or not and I don't think the amount of time he waits should be directly tied to a judgement of his character.
The man I like currently is willing to wait for me because I told him I don't engage in sexual activities and I am waiting till after marriage. It doesn't seem to bother him because he thinks I'm worth the wait and he's interested in more than just my body. I understand he's sexually actractted to me and I am to him, but I am old fashioned and people can call me whatever they want (selfish, prude, bitch) but I don't care I will save my virginity for the right man if he has a problem fine by me he won't be missed lmao.
There should be no absolute number of months weeks or days. By you putting up a magic number that meant that you didn't have feelings for him that equated with having sex. You didn't feel the emotional attachment. Well if you didn't that's fine but that doesn't mean that the six months you automatically will feel that emotional attachment. Basically you're stringing the guy along
There isn't anything wrong with that, other then the fact most guys won't wait that long. But at the end of the day if it makes you feel more comfortable i say do it and if the guy can't respect it then he's not worth it.