I have an ex boyfriend... we ended things with the knowing of getting back together eventually... I have dated someone since the breakup and just wasn't satisfied with that relationship. I feel like it's time we start talking again.. but he's pretty busy.. as am I. What can I do that will shock him and make him know I'm ready to start talking again and will make him excited to start talking again? Not that he wouldn't be.. but we've just been small talking every now and then.. and I'm ready for something else..
Correction... I want him to want me.. I know he misses me and stuff.. but I do want him to admit that he missed me and wants me back
I'd say flirt playfully. Sinc eyou datted him, do you know what his "love language" is... e. g. how does he feel loved? words of affirmation, touch, etc? Do that.
I was thinking.. send him plaufl and fun notes. demonstrate your high value (you aren't cheap in any department but are fun, adventerous and fun to be with). Demonstrate you RESPECT him... that is like crack cocaine to a male. For example... I so admire how hard you study, I'm very proud of you... that kind of stuff (if that is how he is fed) will stimulate him to want to be with you.
Just be open and friendly... tell him you'd really like to be back in touch and maybe find a good e-card on the web that accentuates the friendly and positive message. The main challenge will be to make him feel he's not "second choice" but that having been apart for some time made you realize how much you miss him. Hope it works out :D
How do you end things with the knowing of getting back together? A good healthy relationship does not need this. I stick to this an ex is an ex for a reason. You'll only hurt your self more trying to go back to him
I'm kinds going through the same time except we both know we belong together, we just aren't. We still spend time together and chat on the phone, and the first person we run to if we need something is each other. Last week he finally told me he's been really missing me. So I've just be taking it one stride at a time. i know when the time is right for both of us we will be back together.
You don't. Move on with your life and be happy, do things you enjoy etc. He'll be like "Damn i need her" and he'll want you back or he'll be like "oh well, she's happy" and you'll geta chance to move on.
That something else could be someone else or if he sees you are different or your life is different as a whole, new friends or a hobby, he may be interested in this new person. He could be busy for the old you.