I have a friend i like.. i did ask her out once but she had someone else she liked.. was dating him but didn't last long. I have been thinking of asking her out agin since were closer and get along very will.. and everyone says we would be the perfect couple. But yea doesn't wanna have kids and i want 1 of my own. She perfect ok with adopting kids but does not wanna go through the pain of having a kid. I fine with adpoting a kid becuase its something i always wanted to do but still want a kid of my own.
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Date? Sure, go have fun. Become boyfriend /girlfriend with? No. Its tough to hear, but you will save yourself heartache and future divorce. You want your own kid... and that is totally different from adoption. If you date her and fall in love, you will be struck with a strong desire for you two to have a child together... as in part of you and part of her creating life. And the fact that she says she's "open" to adoption means she really doesn't want kids. Yes, people can chose adoption for moral or human rights reason, but someone like that would react differently than what it sounds like she did. That person would say, "absolutely, I want kids, but I want to adopt." The reality is that she really doesn't want them or is undecided and doesn't know how to say that.
I used to say that I wanted to adopt because I didn't want to carry one. Then my current relationship really made me sit down and think about it. I realized I don't want kids and used adoption as an excuse. Because as a woman, we're expected to want kids. And if we realize its not for us, we get looked down on... so have to come up with excuses or say, "I don't know. Maybe someday." But its all a lie.
If you feel so uncertain about it that you need advice... that's your gut telling you its not going to work. Its painful, it sucks, but you both need someone with similar life values. That perfect woman is out there for you. So try not to feel discouraged 😊2