She decided she was not ready for a relationship, and needed to figure some stuff out on her own. We both took a step back from each other and took a break. Now her and I are "friends" but we are still flirty and she expresses how she still cares for me and wants to be updated on my life. My hope is that us being friends is taking things slower, and may lead to commitment down the line. But is this plan of action wise? Will this work out? The word "friends" may mean different things to the both of us, im just not sure...
Most Helpful Girl
Depends on the fling. My ex hates me (not my fault I believe), 3 of my 4 one night stands are still friends of mine and we're even closer than before although one is about to become a 2 nights stand. 1 was crazy, a mistake, we wouldn't have become friends anyways. My former friends with benefits kinda raped me and said I hurt his feelings by telling him I was not okay with that. So that's tense now. We're still "friends" due to mutual friends and activities, but we don't talk or meet in private at all anymore.0
Most Helpful Guy
It could work if you play your cards right. You shouldn't shut her out, or "ghost" her, but don't open up too much. I've noticed that when people want to stay updated about your life but don't want a relationship, they eventually find out that they're happy with a friendship.
To avoid this, slowly back away. Don't update her on everything. Maybe try dating someone else as well. There's a chance she may never want to get back together.
My second to last ex did that. I took 5 steps back. It bothered her that I was so aloof. Eventually she asked me if I had a girlfriend. I told her I was talking to someone, since she wasn't interested and I could stick around forever. We got together - needless to say, I wish I had asked the other girl out.1