We both make minimum wage $10/hour. He says that originally he wanted to surprise me and pay for all of the trip but because he couldn't save that much because he was unemployed for 3 months, he says that he has no choice but to tell me so I can contribute to my own birthday "gift" which is in 7 months. He says that if we both save up to $3000 that will be enough for a 4 star hotel, non stop flights, and fancy restaurants for 11 days. I live with my single mother and I have to pay $200 a month for bills, $150 a month for transportation, $50 a month for my own cell phone bills. I only make around 800-850 a month after taxes. He makes the same as me but he gets tips sometimes and he doesn't have to pay a lot for his rent because he lives with his parents who makes more money than my mom. Plus he doesn't have to pay for transportation because he works in a place that's walking distance from his house. He literally doesn't need to spend much money on bills and stuff. I told him that if we're going to have the most fun I think we should at least choose less fancier options but he says he wants it to be most comfortable for me. How can I be comfortable if I'm saving up money for my own birthday present that he's giving to me? I feel like since he brought up this trip first that he should contribute at least more than me right? I feel like I'm not being treated, that it's the other way around. What do you guys think?
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I was feeling for you as you described your financial position and how you tried to talk your boyfriend into spending less.
But then when you started saying shit like "I feel like I'm not being treated"... my opinion changed. Because of that I think you're being an entitled bitch.
Here's the thing. You guys aren't doing well financially. That's ok, it's just part of life. Fortunes come and fortunes go. Today you're on minimum wage, next year, you could be doing much better. The important thing is that you guys are doing this together. You're going through the rough times together so that you can build on a better future together. This is what being a real partner is about.
It's not like he's doing really well financially and is still asking you to contribute. He's in the same boat as you, and he only wants to create an awesome memory with you, and for you. He was even honest about his abilities and his financial position and tried to give you advanced notice, so that you can prepare.
This is time for you to reflect on yourself for a bit. Are you his ride or die bitch, or are you just a bitch? Because I can tell you now, if you aren't willing to ride through the bad moments of life together with him as a partner, you shouldn't expect to still have a spot by his side and stay as his partner when his fortunes turn around.0
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