I recently had both my ovaries removed due to bengin tumours they managed to freeze some eggs but it is highly unlikely I will be able to have a biological child. I have gone into menopause and have to wear clear patches on my skin for hormones all the time. I'm 23. Any advice on how and when to explain this to a guy? And if you are a guy would you stay with a girl like this? And would the fact that she has gone into menopause make her unattractive to you? would the patches freak you out? Thanks for any advice :)
I know so many intelligent, desirable guys who would not care at all. They have absolutely no interest in having children, now or ever. In a way, a girlfriend with no ovaries is a dream girl for a guy like that, since most women are very motivated to bear children at some point. If you mean that you want to find a guy who is okay with adopting down the line, that's a more advanced conversation.
I'd say just find a good guy you can be open with, who is understanding and thoughtful, and be honest. Good luck. :)
I personally would like to have kids but if I truly love someone I wouldn't care if she's not able to have kids. But I'm sure ivf would work for you, just don't stress about it and believe in God (even if you are not a religious person).
But if you are worried on how to break it to him, I'll suggest you putt the patch somewhere visible so he asks about it.
Eh... that's an hard one. I think there is no right answer here. I would say that probably the best solution is to tell the truth in early dates, just not the very first one. In other words, give him some times to get interested in you, but not so much that if it is a deal breaker for him you will already be in love with him and get crushed.
I honestly think that it will not be much of a problem because if a man truly loves you he will see it as impossible to go through marriage and building a family without you by his side. Everybody is replaceable but some people are not. I guess that he would accept alternative ways to start a family with you e. g. adoption, etc. This is a so delicate issue to talk about and it can let one quiet disappointed at times, so don't expose yourself unless you are really really sure he means a lot to you and you would take it further with him. In that case be sincere with him from the start.
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