Even when it's just casual sex, and even when the guy is really not that special, I just can't text him first! I get scared that he will not want to talk to me or will not reply or something. Why do I have this fear? How can I stop thinking too much?
repeat after me "I don't give a f$#k! really, I don't care what happens or what he says. I'm good either way, if he likes me or rejects me, I'm awsome. I love me and I'll have fun and be great either way, but maybe he can have some fun with me. "
It is your fear of rejection that needs resolved and we just did that. no more worry.
im with the other guy Nomad69, guys text first the majority of the time. its not really a big deal. you'll just have to bite the bullet (ouch) and do it. if you dont get a reply its not the end just move on to the next lad. to answer your question.. 1) its a fear of rejection. everyone has it. 2) you'll stop thinking about it if you do it. try just saying "hi ________" and go on from there.
Don't assume anything! There probably isn't a reason to worry, it's probably just they didn't hear their phone or something! Once you send the message, don't wait around for a reply, make yourself busy etc!
Even if they still don't reply, nothing wrong with sending a casual follow up text!