My boyfriend and I are together 6 years, we have never ever once gone away on holidays together, he goes away with his friends to different places, this only started to happen when we got together so it wasn't a normal thing for him. I only found out 3 weeks ago he's leaving for Spain tomorrow for a month he's not back till 30th of June. I'm absolutely heartbroken, I hate not being with him, and I was asking him at Christmas time can I book a holiday for me and him for the summer and he was like ' awh no I don't no' and now he's off tomorrow for Spain. He's going with one guy who I never have met in my life. He's single. And there staying in his friends nanny's home. There going over to train and do boxing in a gym ( they both train and do MMA) so I understand that but I feel like he doesn't have to go for a month he can do training here like he always does. I asked him could I come over for a week and he started to give out saying ' no u can't my friend luke will be there u can't do that' my boyfriend is 23 I'm 22. He's also being mean to me like I'm so upset I'm crying now stop and he don't seem to care he's just like stop being silly I'll be home in a mouth. And he started to give out to me last night saying " your the only one who isn't happy for me.. this is the crap I'm not going to miss ' etc. He's just not understanding my point at all. And he was like we can't talk a lot because I'll be busy etc. He's saying it's not a holiday but it is. He's like ' I'm training everyday ' but off course he go out and shop around and look around etc and do things. I'm so upset I don't even want to be here anymore. I'm so angry and resentful. Am I being stupid?
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This sounds like a Relationship of His Own Convenience Only, @rajaXx, And He doesn't give a Hill of Beans how you Feel on any Deal. You definitely are getting the Raw End of the Stick.
I find it Unfair that he has never Taken you, Not even Once, On a Holiday with just the two of You. He finds the Time down the Friend Line, To Take his buds but leaves you Home all Alone. It's like he is this Swinging Single.
Let him Go for Now, Do as you Have always done, And keep in touch.
However, when Honey comes back from his 'I'm training every day,' You need to sit him down and take the bull by the horns here, dear, And lay a few of your own Ground Rules down.
He is Mistaking your Kindness for Weakness With No 'Being silly' about It, Giving You your own Title "Enabler." This is Mental Abuse, He is Slapping this on your Forehead so you do Not... Forget.
Good luck and Dry those tears. xx2
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