This girl and I started dating in March and everything was going well. We can talk for hours, love to be around each other and we're very flirty. We progressed I think a little too fast to bf/gf status (After a month) and it freaked her out a bit (She just got out of a 5 year relationship in January) She has major trust issues owing to her ex (Thinks I'll cheat, made me swear up and down I wasn't seeing anyone else multiple times) Long story short, she wanted to end things and be friends. I didn't beg her or plead and we didn't talk for almost a week. Then she starts texting me again and her attitude seems more than friendly. After a few days of light flirty chatter, she said she'd like to set me up with her friend, but I told her I didn't want to try another relationship so soon. Then she asked me "Well, what if I wanted to get back together?" and I told her I wouldn't want to jump right back into a relationship with her and that I'd rather take it slow. (Half-true) After that things really seemed to take off and she's almost acting like she's my girlfriend again texting me good morning and goodnight most days. Sometimes she catches herself and says "I thought we were just going to be friends" but she always loses herself again in the conversation, especially when we flirt. At one point last night we were talking about a sex position and she said we could try it sometime. (Sex was always good with us) Things had gotten a little stale before we broke up (I think we were talking too much) but now it's like we're firing on all cylinders again. Do you think I'm assessing the situation clearly? Am I at least on some kind of path to getting her back, even just as like casually dating, or does this sound like friendzone stuff?
Most Helpful Girl
It does not sound like you're friendzoned, but it doesn't sound like this will go anywhere either.
It's up to you if you're fine with it. she clearly enjoys your company and so do you enjoy hers, so all in all it's ok. Sort of like friends with benefits.
What seems odd however is that she offered to hook you up with a friend... if it was a test, it is a really stupid and immature one. makes me wonder how young she is. She COULD be in it only for the attention. Hard to tell.
If i where you I'd simply go along for as long as it is ok for you, but don't get too attached emotionally before things look more serious.0
Most Helpful Guy
Run run run dude... RUN! Come on you're 30-35!
You are not assessing the situation clearly AT ALL!
You are not gold, you are a REBOUND. Jumping into a relationship 2 months after a 5 year relationship is DANGER ZONE for rebound.
The moment her ex gives her any hint of being interested, she will RUN back to him. And guess what? "Long story short, she wanted to end things and be friends. I didn't beg her or plead and we didn't talk for almost a week." That's exactly what is happening here.
"she said she'd like to set me up with her friend" Dude she's already dumping you off on someone else. Tell me, if she was so interested in you, why would she dump you off on another girl? BECAUSE SHE IS GOING BACK TO HER EX.
"Thinks I'll cheat, made me swear up and down I wasn't seeing anyone else multiple times". This is pretty much the biggest red flag there is in the dating world.
Dude, this is the type of story that ends up being used as an example on relationship advice websites.
Anyhow, I was not trying to be aggressive, I am just trying to help you before you get hurt.0
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