Some people say that being rejected based off something they can't control is better because at least they know that it was nothing on their end that they could have done, while others argue that they'd prefer it be something they CAN control so that they can improve for the future.
Which do you prefer, and why?
- Something I CAN Control (weight/body type, financial situation, dress, attitude)53% (26)72% (41)63% (67)Vote
- Something I CANNOT Control (race, height, background, etc.)47% (23)28% (16)37% (39)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I can't answer from the prompt because in reality rejection is still rejection and in no way dose it feel good or acceptable. Now your question dose spark debate though on the one hand you have something hat can be changed, that being said if someone did judge you on " weight/body type, financial situation, dress, attitude" so much so that they left why would you want someone like that in your life to begin with and the same goes for " race, height, background, etc." It's still blind judgement and still just as crappy. The only difference is that one can be changed with time and one can not, but that doesn't matter because the man or woman has already left you can't get that person back and even if you could change the issues they had and secondly even if you could would you really want someone so shallow as to judge you by superficial things. For that I'll to my hook back in the pond sort of speak and find someone who doesn't judge me like that. Well that's my two cents in it.0
Most Helpful Girl
I get rejected all the time because I don't have a pretty face. It's not exactly something I can control unless I am willing to wear layers of makeup. However, makeup can only do so much and plus eventually a guy has to see me without it. I don't want a guy to just like me when my face is made up. My only other option is plastic surgery, and that costs a lot of money.
So I'd rather be rejected for something that I can change.0