I'm currently 29, and have been in relationships before. But I have been single for almost 5 years now, because I fell on hard times. I am still working on getting my shit together, and it will take a year or two. I am certainly not in a position to date or be in a relationship right now.
So if I only start dating seriously after a year or two (when I am in my early 30s), will it be too late, especially since my dating experience until now has been minimal? They do say 30s are the new 20s, especially for men, but I don't know to what extent it's true.
P. S. I can't date now even if I wanted to, because I am still figuring out my career and can't afford to pay for dates (because I know it's the man's job to pay at least for the initial dates).
Most Helpful Girl
1. It's not the man's job to pay. I like when men offer but don't feel comfortable having anyone pay for me. [[It's nice because it shows they want to make a good impression and br a gentleman]].
2. Its NOT too late. -Rather you be in the right place and wait
3. A lot of women like older men. Personally, I like men 5+ years older than myself. *shrugs* Always have, likely always will.
4. Do what wil make YOU happy in the long run. :]
Lol, sorry if it was long. I really hope it helps!1
Most Helpful Guy
I was in a very similar situation to you a few years ago. I had just ended a very long (decade+ relationship) and part of all that happening meant I was at the lowest point in my life - house, job, everything I'd built up so far was gone.
I was 33. All my dating experience had been in my 20s, largely picking up girls in nightclubs.
My advice is:
-get in shape
-buy some nice fashionable clothes that look good on your newly in-shape self
-get some fun hobbies that you could potentially share
-start living an awesome and interesting life (this does not have to be expensive! You could start mountain biking or hiking, both of which are essentially free once you buy your bike/boots)
-take pictures of yourself living that life
-put those pictures of you looking fit and happy living your life on a dating site
-start meeting girls
This is basically it. There are plenty of girls out there who are in the same situation as you - either they had an LTR end, or they don't want to settle, or whatever. Many of them won't have kids, contrary to what all the alarmists will say about dating in your 30s. I had no problem find intelligent, attractive women my own age with no kids who wanted to go out on dates.
The age old rules of not being desperate and needy apply.0
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