I don't know why it feels this way.
I just feel weird going up to a pretty girl, trying to get her number in less than five minutes knowing I might never see her again.
My friends don't even do this, they just use instagram or snapchat, but I don't.
How can I make it feel normal and 'ok to do'?
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I think the most important part of your question is the last part where you say 'OK to do', as in you're implying that approaching is currently not ok to do in your mind. I think this points to a broader problem that young guys have it in their minds that approaching girls is not okay and is frankly unwanted, which in my experience on this site is false more often than true, but who can really say for sure anyways.
I think society, in its ever-growing protective state, has done a piss poor job of fostering healthy relationships and has instead encouraged guys to stop approaching for fear of being branded a creep who gives unwanted attention.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to a state of mind. You gotta change the frame to be that all the girls want you to approach them instead of the frame that you currently have, which is its weird, uncomfortable, and not okay.
The challenging part is reading the situation and coming up with a conversation starter that will diffuse the initial awkwardness and open her up to you. Its different for each girl and each setting, and can be impossible if you're not particularly outgoing and quick on your feet.0