i had this conversation with a lot a girls (mostly ones im interested in dating) and a majority of the time it becomes a huge debate when i say we are doing 50/50. they get angry and say why should they pay and what not. and some of my guy friends (even my mom once) told me that a jackassed system. hell i been called a "Fuckboy" and been given the Chivalry is dead speech for saying this.
i learned in my time when i pay for everything i end up getting "used" as they just see me as a free day/meal and etc and try to push their luck. and that when i go 50/50 , these girls actually stick around and what not.
some of my friends say they never had to pay for a date, the girl paid for it all.
so how does GAG Do it? this hopefully should make a Fun discussion
- The guy Pays. Its only right. its been that way forever16% (4)43% (6)26% (10)Vote
- the Girl pays. Lets Be Different0% (0)0% (0)0% (0)Vote
- Whoever asked the person out pays. Why should i pay if you asked me to come out the house?24% (6)21% (3)23% (9)Vote
- 50/50 (both pay). its only fair, We both are doing the activity.60% (15)36% (5)51% (20)Vote
im also impressed with the results so far. more guys (5-4-3) Feel like the guy should pay. while more girls (11-5-3) are more in favor of the 50/50 system.
Keep up the good discussion/votes guys and gals
Most Helpful Girl
We do 50/50, and sometimes I even pay for his meals if he's having a tough time or been especially nice. I make more money than him, anyways ;P
If a guy on the first date paid for my meal, I'd freak out. I'm not comfortable taking from someone I know nothing about. It feels like I'd owe them something, or they're expecting me to keep dating them, and this is their bait. Lol, not gonna happen. I won't be guilted into having another date with a possible psycho.
Now, looking back at all the meals I paid for myself, and looking at all the free meals girls get away with, I realise I've been stupid. I should just start leeching meals off boys for free now.2
Most Helpful Guy
I agree with @Aetumn. If they want equality, they lose the 'Lady benefits.'
When I invite someone out, I expect to pay since I invited them. If I get invited out, then I don't expect to pay. And it's been kinda cool that I would pay for the movie or dinner, and my date right away wanted to cover desert or coffee right after. And we would wind up taking turns. I'm okay with that.
I would say be okay with paying when you invite. You might be pleasantly surprised that your date wouldn't mind picking up the movie if you picked up dinner.1