i had this conversation with a lot a girls (mostly ones im interested in dating) and a majority of the time it becomes a huge debate when i say we are doing 50/50. they get angry and say why should they pay and what not. and some of my guy friends (even my mom once) told me that a jackassed system. hell i been called a "Fuckboy" and been given the Chivalry is dead speech for saying this.
i learned in my time when i pay for everything i end up getting "used" as they just see me as a free day/meal and etc and try to push their luck. and that when i go 50/50 , these girls actually stick around and what not.
some of my friends say they never had to pay for a date, the girl paid for it all.
so how does GAG Do it? this hopefully should make a Fun discussion
The guy Pays. Its only right. its been that way forever
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the Girl pays. Lets Be Different
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Whoever asked the person out pays. Why should i pay if you asked me to come out the house?
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50/50 (both pay). its only fair, We both are doing the activity.
We do 50/50, and sometimes I even pay for his meals if he's having a tough time or been especially nice. I make more money than him, anyways ;P
If a guy on the first date paid for my meal, I'd freak out. I'm not comfortable taking from someone I know nothing about. It feels like I'd owe them something, or they're expecting me to keep dating them, and this is their bait. Lol, not gonna happen. I won't be guilted into having another date with a possible psycho.
Now, looking back at all the meals I paid for myself, and looking at all the free meals girls get away with, I realise I've been stupid. I should just start leeching meals off boys for free now.
I agree with @Aetumn. If they want equality, they lose the 'Lady benefits.'
When I invite someone out, I expect to pay since I invited them. If I get invited out, then I don't expect to pay. And it's been kinda cool that I would pay for the movie or dinner, and my date right away wanted to cover desert or coffee right after. And we would wind up taking turns. I'm okay with that.
I would say be okay with paying when you invite. You might be pleasantly surprised that your date wouldn't mind picking up the movie if you picked up dinner.
It really shouldn't be this huge ordeal. When I have a steady boyfriend or I'm going out with someone regularly, we tend to take turns. On the first couple of dates, I always offer to split it, but if he says not to worry about it, I won't. If I invite someone out, I pay for us both.
I dont like talking about this but my answer will ALWAYS be the same.
Whether the girl invited the guy to a date or vice versa - a guy should always pay! Almost everyone will disagree with me on this but I dont give two shits. Therefore, a guy should always pay no matter what. Unless of course theyre dating for a very long time and thats when they can split the bill or she can pay. But 2 kagillion years ago, men always paid.
When you first start dating, the first month or so the man should pay for the dates, thats how you "court" a women. When the relationship matures you begin to share who pays, she'll say "i got it" or "let me get this one" after you pay several times; if she's the right kinda girl. But you have to serenade your women or she won't be your women. women bitch about wanting equality, etc but what we really want is for a guy to take us to dinner, tell us were pretty and take control of the relationship. Good Luck !
Should be 50/50. If the girls are pissed because of that, then they are not worth it. Sometimes women do this as what i call a shit test. They test you to see if you have balls, if you are a nice guy they can step or if you are a man.
Pay stuff for women when they / if they deserve it, not when they want.
If I were a woman I wouldn't have much use for a guy who was over concerned with the question. Usually when a girl asks me out or decides where we are going to go I will let her pay if she tries to, if not I'll pay without a word but it's not a mark in her favor. If I ask her out or choose the place I always pay.