I mean I'm a decent looking guy. I have a really athletic muscular body. But all of this means nothing if I can't spit game. I understand girls are just as nervous to talk to guys as guys are to talk to girls. I just don't know what to say sometimes and I hate rejection. Ok here's an example. There were a couple of girls in a pool so I walked over and kicked it in the hot tub. They got out of the pool and left so I got into the pool. Then they went directly to the hot tub and I just couldn't get myself to go in 😔. How do I get over this? I really need to start talking to girls because I've been pretty lonely lately and it's kind've depressing.
Most Helpful Girl
I'd say get a wingman. Until you learn to overcome your shyness, you'll probably need some help from friends in order to be able to initiate conversation with woman. He'll help you in the sense that he'll be able to open up that door of conversation for you. In order to overcome shyness on your own time, try practicing speaking to various people. They don't have to be attractive or even a girl, simply just try and initiate some form of conversation. Once you've become comfortable with this you can begin to take it one step further and even maybe ask out a girl. But remeber, if you're not comfortable, people will sense it and they will will the same way, so don't try to immediately push yourself into extreme social situations. Hope this helped!
Most Helpful Guy
Well first you need to have presence and not avoid them. So if they were in the pool then you shouldve joined them. Just say hi as a start and go from there. If they avoid you then theyre not worth your time and you just move on to the next girl. But sometimes they will avoid you just bc you are a stranger and you need to have a warm and friendly approachable attitude. That way they will feel more comfortable especially when a hot muscular dude is making them all blushed and nervous lol.
Just try and have more confidence and you dont have to be the most talkative. Just ask questions and get them talking or just relax and dont have to have a high pace convo or anything. Girls will feel comfortable if you are comfortable and dont put unnecessary pressure on yourself like you have to impress them or anything. Just be you and dont worry too much about they think and just be a cool guy who is confident. We all get nerves but show that you can handle it and be ok with yourself.0