Srsly, I'm tired of being single, and my shyness is a turn off because girls want confidence.
Basically I want to be confident, and ask out a bunch of girls and not care if I get rejected.
Most Helpful Girl
Everything starts in your mind and then becomes reality, so you need to install the right beliefs into your subconscious. This is the most important thing you can do.
Try repeating (out loud or in your head) every day in every way I am more and more confident. Say it in the shower, on the way to work, in the supermarket; anywhere.
You can also try using visualizations see yourself being outrageously confident in social situations, feel how good that is.
Or try self-hypnosis this is my own favourite technique for embedding new belief systems into your mind.
Most Helpful Guy
I agree with bacon burger it is something you gain by doing. However you do have to go about it the right way. Asking out a bunch of random girls will only get you hurt and will make you more shy. Try adjusting your posture when your shy. Instead of your arms folded across your chest put them in your pockets and puff out your chest a bit. Or if you have to fiddle put them behind your back military attention style and let your hands fiddle around back there. The best suggestion I can give you is to join a small mixed group. Like a hobby group, college club, a church young adult group. I spent two years Isolated focusing on college and in college unless your an extrovert in class no one really talks to you that much. My social skills dwindled down and I got even shyer than before. I joined my churches young adult group and I took a bit but I got used to talking to women and I made several good female freinds. It took 6 months to a year but I'm not really that shy even then the girl I'm talking to is a 10. That being said I am still shy saying hi to new people. That won't ever go away. The experience helped me a lot because last semester I was in 2 classes that were all female only classes the dudes left after the first day when they saw they were out numbered. While I was freindzoned by all of the women I did not have a problem talking to them because I had become used to it with my female freinds.0