I have a laundry list of shit I need to get talk to a doctor about. Too afraid to do it though. So that just brought me to this question.
Most Helpful Girl
I can say honestly, no. I've watched my friend over the last 2 years, date and marry someone with severe depression. He refused to get help and wouldn't allow her to help him, and things just spiraled from there to the point where living in the house was completely unbearable.
If you are not a doctor, it is extremely hard to help someone who needs help, especially if they refuse to get help. They cannot deal with their issues or their life at the moment or over time, and that makes it extremely hard to be in a connected relationship with them that is two way. Also their are some mental orders that turn violent or dangerous for other family or friends. It's just sometimes too much of a risk, and too hard to live with someone who really and truly needs what you personally cannot give them.1
Most Helpful Guy
I said yes, because my wife of many years has a great many issues, some more difficult than others. Fortunately loyalty isn't an issue she struggles with. So yes we have some challenges, but from my perspective most couples do, I guess it's just a matter of how you look at those challenges. Do I feel that this issues make her a bad person? No, I just don't always like the choices she makes, and she is slowly working on her issues. Lastly the one thing that helps me when I'm really struggling with her through her issues, is the fact that I love her and that despite all of her issues, it is this love that is the bedrock of our relationship and that she is as deserving of love as anybody else, and that maybe it is my loving support that is helping her deal when she is having a time of it.0