Me and this guy have been friends all school year, and just recently we both agreed we caught feelings for each other. I really like him and he really likes me. But seems to be acting distant ever since we confronted each other. The other day i texted him saying " Hey, i really want this to work, and I'm not gonna waste my time if your not interested," and he replied with "I don't want to waste your time, i really do like you, but if something was to happen i don't want to ruin our friendship." and then i texted him back saying " well i can't promise that nothing bad will happen but it doesn't hurt to try." and he didn't reply back at all. I don't understand, is that his way of saying he doesn't want to date me, or is he just really nervous to date me. I'm just so confused on what he wants. Especially if he is telling my friends how much he likes me and that we are talking. I really do like him, he is amazing and i really want this to work out but i don't think he feels the same. Please help, none of my friends know how to help me!!
Most Helpful Guy
maybe he doesn't know what to do. He is acting shy and you may need to be more accepting of him. Tell him that it is okay to date you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Ohhhhhhh nooooo! My h. s diary, all my poems, notes to friends and memories are filled with this terrible situation. My first love, we met our 9th grade yr. He said the same thing. We both tried moving on to "save our friendship ". Eventually it turned into "I love you, and am so afraid this won't work that i won't let myself date you" Long story shortened, our relationship did get ruined. He couldn't handle me being with anyone else, I ended relationships because I still loved him. It was heartbreak after heart break. 9yrs later we went our ways. He came back for a short moment through text. I was pregnant, now he too has a child and my "best friend" has never reached out to ask about my son and avoids my communication to congratulate him on his daughter.
My advise, either date or dont. If he says no, image him kissing and holding another girl. If that hurts then walk away from him.0