with this guy we met only a few month ago and we see each other very rare... He asked me if i am on birth control i said yes... so we didn't use any protection.
But... i dont know how, i got pregnant, probably pills were not effective.
But as i said, we r not close with this guy and see each other rarely... Should i tell him?
Most Helpful Guy
Yes you should tell him he has the right to know and it's wrong not to. Things you should be prepared for if he asks for a blood test to be done. Don't be upset if he dose it's natural for a guy who as you said you're not so close with to be cautious.
Secondly there are options on the table for you one being to obviously have the baby and raise it whether he will be a part of the child's life who knows until you tell him which is important to do for legal reasons because should he find out later that he has a child it would be expected that he would want his right as a father to be upheld so it cold be a custody battle and no one wants that so simply just tell him now to avoid legal issues later and if he wants a blood test done do so. Now he may want to wave his rights and that's fine you have choices there as well, but if he dose have him sign the paperwork waving his rights. Keep in mind you can still raise a child without him if you so choose to but you don't necessarily have to.
Third thing you do have other choices you can get an abortion I'm not saying that you should or shouldn't simply that it is an option and a choice you can make should you choose to.
Fourthly you can have the baby and give it up for adoption there are two choices open adoption where the child knows the situation as it grows and you can have contact with the child and closed adoption so no contact with the child and there are options whether at eighteen the child be provided with your information or not.
As you can see there are options on the table so at least you know them and there is plenty of counseling you can get wth planed parenthood and threw hospitals and doctors so you don't need to be to afraid of the choices you have okay so breath and take a sec to relax.
Now what ideally would you like to happen in your case go ahead and just say what you want to happen?
Most Helpful Girl
Let's see.. no birth control is 100% effective. Especially the pill. Perhaps you should research your own birth control more and what can make it less effective again before having sex?
And yes, I didn't even need to read the description to know that answer. It is half his and he has 50% of the say in what happens. Yes you carry it, so yes you get to order him around and demand he feeds your cravings (if you get into a relationship), but abortion/keeping it/naming it/raising it all of that is also up to him as well as you. So yes you tell him and take responsibility for the fact you two got pregnant. There's no such thing as "I don't know how it happened" because you shouldn't be having sex if you believe that.1