We've been dating for a while now, we were hanging out with some of my girl friends when one of them started complaining about being overweight I was comforting her and he jumped in telling her that she has THE PERFECT HOT BODY and that her weight is just the perfect weight for a female then he turned to me and asked about my weight if it's 45 Kg 40 kg? as in saying I'm underweight
I'm honestly not paranoid I have a good self esteem but what the hell was that?
Not the first time he compliments other girls in front of me... I feel like I don't even like him anymore
IS IT NORMAL? IM I OVER REACTING?
Most Helpful Guy
Im not sure if he is trying to hit on the woman and shame you or anything. Although a possibility I think he is trying to give hints that maybe he wants you to change a little bit.
In my opinion when you date someone you should like them for who they are and not try to force them to change. It suggests when you started the relationship that you weren't being genuine however if you had more weight when you met him then I think maybe it's acceptable for him to desire you as you were when he fell in love with you.0
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Most Helpful Girl
1. Asking a woman/man about her weight/age/marital status is rude. I don't know how old he is. But the older he gets, the gentleman he should more become.
2. I have been in relationship with my boyfriend for more than 6 years. I never compare his weight/age/appearance/etc. with his friends IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS OR MY FRIENDS. He never does that to me neither.
It seems like your boyfriend wants to comfort your friend to BUT comparing you and your friend in front of everyone like that is RUDE. Comparing means this person will be better than the other person in this way or another way. What points he was trying to make? Making you feel ashamed of yourself or making your friend to be even more shamed of herself? It does not make sense to me.
No, you were not overacting. But you need to make it straight to him to not hurt your feeling in public like that again bc its ridiculous. The fact is that you felt something wrong when he did that to you too many times too.
If he does not change the way he treats you, next time you should compare him with a guy friend in front of everyone to make him understand how you feel.0