Been told on the regular I am handsome, nice, can hold conversations, and even a gentlemen, but I always still get cheated on or played. Yes I know I should suck it up and move on, but this happend to me 5 times in a row, it lowers your self esteem, and I just gave up on women for a while. I don't want to become an asshole, because that isn't my character, but I am frustrated all the bad boys get all the women. What can I do?
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You're being selective about your memory... You're pretending only bad boys get the girl so that your ego can feel justified in feeling angry, plus there's a certain inner payoff when we see ourselves as victims. I don't blame you, because I've felt that same way when I was cheated on...
But you're ignoring the fact that you managed to get those 5 girls all by yourself, all before some bad boy decided to have sloppy gross seconds.
The reality is that you're choosing women who are easily seduced by badboys... the same women who apparently don't have a problem cheating on you.
So the common denominator seems to be the type of women you're choosing to be with.
If you're patient and willing to risk being introspective (the risk being your ego might take a few hits) you'll see there were clear red flags that you ignored, and there were commonalities in the women you've been choosing to date.
Attraction isn't a choice, you'll always fall for the super hot dirty girls, we all do. But you need to be more selective, put sex off longer, and dig deeper until you find a woman with more self esteem and who shares your moral structure.
In the meantime feel free to have one-night-stands with the typical girls you chase, if you need to get laid and have fun. But be honest about it with the women you're hooking up with. Guilt free fun is okay while you search for Mrs. Right.
Be patient, the good ones are out there and just as traumatized by assholes as you are.
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