My boyfriend of several years expressed to me some time ago that he feels depressed. These waves of depression weigh heavily on our relationship. I love him very much and want to see him happy. However, I constantly feel as though I'm not enough and can never do enough for him. Any men out there with depression that have some good advice, or women in similar situations with helpful tips?
I also suffer from depression and anxiety which most people think makes it easier because I "know how he feels" but to be honest that makes it twice as hard. Trying to keep myself and him happy feels like trying to make a rock float.
If your boyfriend decides to open up to you about what he is experiencing, know that this takes courage. Strive to help him open up by letting him know that he is safe to share his feelings with you.
If he talks to you, listen attentively, making sure to nod or respond reassuringly. Afterwards, summarize what he said and repeat it back to him to show you were listening. For example, you might say:
''It sounds like you have been feeling really agitated and can’t get yourself out of this state. Thank you for sharing that with me. I am sorry that you have to go through this, but I will do whatever I can to help you.''