I would rather go for a drink at the bar. Its more relaxing in my opinion. Coffee dates seem too focused on talking, and some people (me) find that hard on a first date with a person you dont know well. I always struggle to come up with things to say lol. When you're at a bar there's more noise so you would have go closer to her when you speak, its a perfect opportunity for breaking the touch barrier.
I like going out for dinner, so a drink would be nice. But most guys want to go out for coffee which is okay. I just find, because I don't drink coffee, some guys get weirded out by it. And if we go to a place that doesn't have a lot of other options, I end up not ordering anything, so that might make it awkward too.
I've always gone with the coffee date. I like for both of us to have a clear mind when getting to know each other. More importantly, I've noticed that most of my coffee dates progress into something else. Since coffee dates usually take place in the morning or afternoon, there's time to do something else later in the day. Bars can sometimes be loud and make it difficult to talk to your date.
Coffee dates for sure now as I have gotten older lmao. You can sit and talk and listen to each other. Its usually pretty quiet. A few years ago I would of said the bar for drinks but that can be loud and annoying. Especially if you don't know if they have a band playing or something. Definitely coffee dates for me.
Meeting for a coffee is always nice. Especially if you can meet around lunch time, it is usually quiet so you will be able to talk and find out about each other. Plus if it goes well there is always the opportunity to go for a walk afterwards. Bars can be noisy places, not all the time. So coffee in a nice cafe would be my first choice.
Coffee is kinda more of thing you would go for to make things less like a date, make things more casual and more relaxing. While a drink is more romantic and probably something you would go for with when you know the person slightly better.
The first question you would probably ask the girl / guy at the cafe would be... what's your cup of tea? (coffee...) Quite an icebreaker... and something to start talking about...
Drinks generally make people feel more relaxed and conversations can get intimate...
I said in a bar in the evening... BUT it depends where and how I met them AND what kind of person/relationship I am trying to establish.
If it is more romantic, definitely during the early evening, if it's more platonic or business wise/friendship, etc... it would be during the day :) Although some romantic activities can occur during the day, it would then be based/depend on how and where we met...
I picked coffee haha but that also depends on both people's schedule and free time. It would also be nice if both people made free time to see each other, that really means something.. But I definitely wouldn't mind having late breakfast early lunch and have a cup of coffee over a nice conversation, that sounds nice actually
I've always went for a coffee the first time I met guys on dates. It was the safer option, I'd prefer to be fully compas mentis and have my Witt's about me. The last thing I would want is a guy i dont really know taking advantage of me.
in my single days, my standard first date was ALWAYS coffee in the afternoon, ideally after work. It is a failproof way of finding out really quick if you hit it off. If you do, you can suggest to go get a bite to eat or go for a drink, if you don't click, you can politely end the date after you are done with your coffee.
I always used to take my dates to the same coffee place, and I had many dates. Eventuelly I was starting to worry that some server would say something "oh hi, nice seeing you AGAIN *wink*" Gladly, before that happened, I met my boyfriend lol
Drink ! It's more relaxing and I'm a creature of the night... or afternoon. Wouldn't feel comfortable on a date driniking coffee in plain day light. hahahaha it's like an interview ! It creeps me out! Bars have more of a fun, relaxing atmosphere. You enter a bar or pub and You're already having a great time, no worries just chill.
i think coffee is a good place to start. especially if you don't want to sleep with them. if i'm tryna date someone i don't wanna sleep with them on the first date so please don't put any alcohol in me for our first date! lol