I have a strong sneaky suspicion my boyfriend of 1.5 years cheated on me 4 weeks ago, and last weekend in the same place. He told me he spoke to this girl, but got extremely defensive if I asked who she was, where she was from, etc.
I know I shouldn't be with him - no need to tell me that, i'm asking for help on how to catch him out? He's quite protective with his phone (and I think he'd save her under a different name).
Any tips guys? Unless I just run off with his phone and look through it but then its pretty obvious!!!
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You should notice if he gets defensive or angry at you easily and more often. If he seems to be picking a lot of fights, get angry at you for something small he would usually not be upset about, or gets defensive when you ask him about his night out with the boys, these may be signs of cheating.
Changes in his normal behavior that involve anger towards you could in fact be a reflection of his guilt for cheating or fear that you may find out about his affair.
And also Does he leave, get some space, and then return to apologize? Or does he neglect to apologize or show remorse for hurtful words he said to you? If he is usually good at forgiving and forgetting after a fight and this is not happening anymore, this may be a red flag.
It’s important to remember that your boyfriend’s inner turmoil has nothing to do with you and is a reflection of his own anxieties and fears.
Try not to take his anger towards you personal or put pressure on yourself to try to make him forgive you or feel better, as this could also mean he is actually feeling guilty about an affair.
Wishing you the best of luck.0