Let me paint a scenario:
Let's say there is a couple in their 40's that have been married for 15 years and they have 2 children. Suddenly one of them dies and the other parent start's dating again and finds new love, then later remarries 2 years later.
Isn't that kinda like a betrayal? It's kinda like your replacing them?
I mean how would you feel knowing if you died your partner moves on and replaces you? Did they even love you from the beginning?
And what about the children? How do they feel with the replacement of their parent?
I would like to hear from you opinions about this since i haven't found a similar topic.
(please excuse my horrible English, it's not my native language)
Most Helpful Girl
your English is fine!
It depends. Some people need to have someone to love. Others can't deal with the loss and need the affection. It might feel as replacing, but if their dead partner truly loved them they'd want them to be happy, whether that be alone or together with someone new. The children's ages matter a lot, (pre-) teens won't accept it as much as smaller children, they adapt faster and will most likely open up to the new woman easily. especially if she has other children as well.1
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't remarry if i was with a person i loved for that long. I couldnt.
I would spend the rest of my days holding onto our memories and doing my best for the kids and seeing her in my kids.
Id spend more time with my bros and sipping whisky.
Id like to think im above that but maybe ill have a few ons if i feel im having too much sexual urges. But id never emotionally connect with another woman again.
So if i died and she did i probably would feel betrayed