So, I am 28 years old. Never kissed a girl, had only 1 date in my life, got rejected countless times and got flaked on 4 times in a row. I am a fairly confident person, great sense of humor, and intelligent. I am overweight and dark skinned but I always liked the way I looked and think I am an okay looking guy, although I don't fit the classical standard of what's attractive.
I think I've reached an impasse in my life and I feel that the universe telling me that I am not meant to be with anyone. I've tried asking girls outside my race, online dating, a wider pool, etc. And nothing is working.
Also, I am not one of those guys that goes looking for 9s and 10s. I usually try to talk to smart and funny women because that what attracts me. But it just seems like nothing is working. But here's the paradox...
I know most girls don't find me attractive. The thing is I will be starting school in the MD/PhD Program. I was fortunate enough through hard work that I earned publications, a magazine feature, a part in a documentary, guest speaking, etc in college and I will also work on my diet. All of this rejection will truthfully make me bitter because I know girls will like me in the future but I won't like them because of the superficial reasons.
So either way, I feel like I'm screwed in the dating world. I'm at the bottom of the totem pole now and girls don't like me. But if girls will like me in the future because I am a doctor, I won't like them because they only like my status.
Should I just give up? I know y'all might have great advice but I listened, applied, and nothing. And if anyone want to see pics and give me suggestions, I would message it. Thanks...
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You have a long life to live so you can't just give up. But you need a different approach. Whatever you're doing isn't working. Sign up for gym, get fit, get confident, question your beliefs about dating. if you think you are unattractive, you are gonna find girls who think you are unattractive.0
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