I'm just curious about this because it seems as if the more advanced technology becomes the more people begin online dating. So what are your thoughts on it do you think it is a desperate attempt at love for those who can't get a girlfriend/boyfriend/other in real life? Is it a good thing or a bad thing. is it because you just like the look of a person or they seem to have the same values and beliefs where no one else does? What are your views?
- sad and desperateVote A
- good thing / learn about different culturesVote B
- bad thing / anti-social and ineffective (wouldn't online date )Vote C
- only because of similar views and beliefsVote D
- shyness towards your preferred genderVote E
- problem with commitment in a real life relationshipVote F
- other ( please explain in comments )Vote G
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't online date, because I'm not in the top 10% of guys. They're the only ones who will really get any bites. The ugly girls probably get left out, too, though they're a smaller percentage than the males. Naturally, women are going to look for the absolute best they can find; whereas, men have less requirements, so they will cast a wider net.
The good thing about online dating is that it's easier to bare your soul to the other person and become close very quickly. The downside to that is that it tends to burn out just as quickly. Though, my best friend's older brother got married to a chick he met online. But, the only way it worked was them closing the distance. They met each other IRL, which is why it worked. You can't form a serious relationship solely online. It just won't work. For purely online relationships.
Another good thing about online dating is it's a lot easier to match with someone who is the most similar to you. IRL, it's just random. You might find a couple similarities, but it's hard to find someone who is especially compatible. So, online dating like e-Harmony is good, because it can match you with a lot better match than you would probably find IRL.
So. Basically, pure online dating isn't a good way to go. The only way online dating will work is if the two meet up in person. There are advantages to looking online, depending on where you're looking. Probably more advantages than IRL, actually.
I wouldn't say it's only for people who can't find people IRL. Like I said, you can find a better match online.
I would say it's a good way to stroke your ego, just for a bit. Watch how many hits you get, if nothing else.
I kinda view this like the argument between books and ebooks. It's really an upgrade, no matter how much people love libraries and the smell of paper books. *When* you're talking about online dating as a *matchmaking* thing, and not just *solely* an online relationship.2
Most Helpful Girl
as amazing as people online can be... I'm a very passionate and expressive person. i love hearing him, seeing him, holding him. i wanna go to dinner with him, and laugh with him, and go to the beach with him... i dont know if i could survive not having that. i also think it's a bit more realistic to meet someone from my own country and maybe my culture.
that's the thing i hate about being online though. the person could just be amazing... but the distance among other things does get in the way.1