So my boyfriend came over after work and spend little bit of time with him and everything is good. When he left he told me that he would text me and he hasn't and I'm not bother by that because I know he works two jobs and today he works both Jobs today. So I thought to myself okay he's busy I understand. At 8:23pm I wanted to text him and say " It's hasn't been a day and I'm already missing you... 😔" I wanted to say something cute because l like sending random text to him and he likes receiving texts like that. I was hoping he would text me back, even if it was really late night while he's on break at work. So I was on Facebook and I seen him online and he was online probably like 4 minutes and I'm thinking okay he's going to text me back and nothing and he got back online but it was like a min and then he got off online. To be honest that bothers me that he can get on Facebook but can't text me back. like I want to confront him about it but I don't because it kinda seem petty to confront him about it. and to start a petty argument, like should I let it go or saying something? I just need advice on this.
Most Helpful Guy
Id be concerned too. I don't know about other people, but I always put my babe first. I read her messages and reply before doing anything else.
But in your case, confronting him will just raise a problem. It'll probably make him think that you're needy/insecure. But if it happens on a regular basis, I would confront him then.0
Most Helpful Girl
I totally get what you mean. My SO works as a guy that rides around in delivery trucks and does the heavy lifting. So to me, he should be free for hours every day to reply to my messages but he doesn't. I see him pop on facebook every few hours (at most), for a few minutes and it kind of upsets me. But realistically, you can open your phone for all of a second and not even open facebook and sometimes it says you're online. And it takes a while for facebook to refresh and realise you've gone offline.
I too send cute texts and he does too, but I've come to terms with the fact that he talks in the truck (or people are nosy and are reading over his shoulder), he doesn't feel comfortable reading while driving (it happens to people, travel sickness from reading) etc. I mean there's many reasons that he just doesn't text while at work. My SO said he wants to properly reply to me and he can't do that while working because there's not enough time etc.
If you want to ask him in a joking way what he does at work and why he can't reply (not in these words) make it something light hearted. Or just outright ask, because communication and honesty is not something you should be scared of :)