During the summer I'm traveling for vacation and coincidentally, my boyfriend's ex is coming into town for the whole 2 months that I'll be gone. He said he was happy that she was coming so he will finally have someone to hang out with, and a few other friends.
I told him that I was insure about it and he told me he won't see her. But he might go out with her in a group setting.
I get an uneasy feeling whenever he brings her up, and it honestly seems like she still has feelings for him.
Should I let him hang out with her alone or not?
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I don't like how he went about it, the moment you're going and she's in town and he's talking about how he'll have someone to see etc. For me, he's not tried to be respectful of you, even if he's trying to make jokes his jokes have a tinge of "you can't trust me" in them.
If they weren't already friends I don't see why he needs to see her unless by accident, she is an ex for a reason. The fact you aren't there bothers me. I told my SO when his ex who he's friends with (but is out of the country) comes back, I'm not going to stop him talking or seeing her but I'd like him to respect me - not invite her over if I'm not around or he hasn't told me first etc.
So while you obviously don't have the right to "allow" or "let" him hang out with her alone, you can obviously ask that he respect you and that he doesn't. And either keep it to group settings or just move on and avoid her. I am torn on whether to mention you think she has feelings for him, because I wouldn't want him to look at her with the idea she has feelings for him still.
But do what you feel is best.1
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