Ok so my boyfriend of 8 sex years loves sex is great at it, doesn't stray, but hardly has sex with Me.
Like he's emotional like a girl you could say and needs his ego stroked a little and us to be getting on well for a while no fights in order to have sex, which is stil only like once every 6 weeks. It drives me nuts because if I had it my way I'd have it all the time, but not only does he not want it often he also rejects me a lot, like the other day because he assumed I'm talking to a guy on my phone or If I've said something he didn't agree with. I've discussed this with him plenty of times as Its gets me so down as he makes me feel like im a piece of shit & not worthy of it/ his love. He's told me he feels bad but continues to do it and doesn't change. He talks jokes around all the time how much he wants to have sex with me or how good I look etc but doesn't act on it. Sometimes I think he does it to have control over me and my emotions, self esteem?
Its been going on for the last 2 years like this and it's really affecting my self esteem, I live him but don't know what to do
Most Helpful Guy
Well, there are lots of influences that can negatively affect someone's sex drive. Is there any money or job problems, new stresses in your lives? Is he unhappy with himself professional? Are there any health issues? You need to look at yourself too. Any major life changes? Baby, weight gain, style change? Also, some relationships do run out of momentum after time. He still loves you, but that drive to want to be with you sexually has dried up. Some couples become so lovey-dovey after time that good old hard fucking seems too "dirty" or demeaning and therefore they lose interest.0
Most Helpful Girl
You sound immature.
It seems like he is bored of you. First of all, it's a myth that men think about sex every seven seconds, and while that still sounds like a lot, just because he's thinking about it hardly means he wants it right then and there.
So when he negs you, it seems unnatural, and you may worry that something's wrong with your relationship.
But the occasional mismatch in desire is normal. You can't just flash him or grab his crotch and expect him to be instantly hard.
If you're really in the mood and think his no had some leeway, you will have to plant a sexy thought in his head, which could make his lust level do a 360.
Wishing you the best of luck.0