I recently posted a mytake about egalitarian nice guys versus traditionalist nice guys. I made an image caption for the take and posted it at the very end:
I want to know if you guys agree or disagree with the overall sentiment. Choose 100% agree if you strongly believe that dating is more fair for the modern woman than it is for the modern woman.
- 100% AgreeVote A
- It has some truth to itVote B
- 100% DisagreeVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Kind of. The part I'm not in full agreement is that they have the right to vent their frustrations without being labeled misogynist because of the women who hurt them.
I get that. But why doesn't this extend to women?
I know personally, my dad used to beat me, he was not a good father nor husband as he constantly cheated on my mom.
I've had relatives and his friends who would molest not just me, but my sisters as well when we were just toddlers and children.
I've had stalkers who called me names like whore, slut, bitch etc because I refused to date them.
I've never cheated and yet both my exes cheated on me.
When I tell men this shit and why before I did not trust men at all, I'd get labeled a misandrist slut. But if a man gets hurt by women he can easily call women stupid, gold digging, selfish hoes and everyone agrees.
Why is that mostly men can vent about it, yet women who do it, are constantly told "#NotAllMen"?0
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Most Helpful Guy
hmm, I think the caption kinda confuses things in a bit. Cause for example, naturally a "nice guy" would love to give flowers if had the chance, or just buy their girl a gift or whatever really, dont think would really care who paid for the date either. Part of being nice is naturally being giving and kind. Dosent mean you roll over naturally, its something just for that one special someone.
Anyway, more to my point. In many of these points you include something that a nice guy would do, then also include a negative comparrison to women or type of women. Like yeah "* These guys hate opening doors for women, paying for dates and buying expensive gifts for already pampered and superficial westernised women" . I assume you mean only for "superficial westernised women" or? Cause why would a nice guy have a problem doing either of those things for someone he cared about for example? I hold doors for random people sometimes, but I dont really think of the gender they are though, but thats kinda my point to. Is that anyone who is nice, is simply nice cause thats how you are as a person. You are not nice, beacuse of women, for women or anything women related really. And I kinda doubt really either way that a "Nice guy" would bother with a "superficial woman" anyway.
And would be ironic though if the "mistreated nice guy" would be doing the generalisations and get some back cause of his bad experience with women. Hey I had my fair share of bad experiences, but I never blamed any other woman than the spesific indivdual who hurt me. Its not an excuse anyway, to do these mistakes. If going to vent, always speak of the individual, otherwise are blaming others for the mistake you are doing yourself (not you spesificly who wrote this of course, but from what it is sayin/suggesting)
Anyways, some other things too, but im tired and sleepy and retarted now, lol. But either way, my suggestion is to drop pretty much anything that talks down on anyone really, dont need it. Its fine to have a no bullshit attitude. But you can say that without bringing in anyone else, like. "A nice guy dont take any bullshit" Instead of say "A nice guy dont take any bullshit from women /type of women". Cause would probably apply to both genders anyway, otherwise its slightly biased.5
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