I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. He's the first boyfriend I've had that is more than a year older than me. He has been amazing and I love him. Unlike the guys I've dated in the past, he has his own car, apartment, and a job. He does little things like hold the car door open for me and pull out the seat in the restaurant. He'll walk me to my door at night too. He's taller than me and goes to the gym so he has a nice body, makes me feel protected.
Basically I feel like I'm dating a MAN rather than a boy for the first time in my life. But my sister thinks the age gap is too much? She says only borderline pedophiles date girls that young if they're 25? I've told her to f*** off but I'm curious if other people feel that way?
Most Helpful Guy
I am in my upper 40's. My girlfriend just turned 21. The average age of women I date is 23, and that hasn't changed since I was 25.
Some young women prefer older men for several reasons: They pay for a date, they know what they are doing in bed (and are not selfish about it), they have experience to share and she can learn from, they can take their girlfriends on expensive vacations or to expensive restaurants without concern, etc.
I have noticed many young women, perhaps your sister, are intensely jealous of women who date older men because they chose someone younger, which usually goes along with being less financially capable. They don't like the idea that the women who date older men have access to a higher standard of living. It is a sexual competition thing, that an older man can outshine most any young boy, so it makes her feel like you have beaten her, even though she has restricted herself.
At some level she is jealous and her way of dealing with that is to try to make you feel bad about it.
Date whom you like. It is no one's business but yours.1
Most Helpful Girl
6 year age gap is okay.1