Long story short I can't have intercourse with my girlfriend because of religious beliefs. Yet she has no problem with getting married without her parents knowing. In fact I love her and I don't wanna fk her life up or mine. I can marry but I can't have kids now. what's ur take on this guys?
If you have a very good established relationship there shouldn't be any reason as to why you have to secretly marry. Don't be foolish. I know somebody who did just that, and it's causing problems within the family. This is not because of religious belief's. Its the exact reason of what you just said in your post: you DON'T want to cause problems, AND you don't want kids now. The point is why are you in this relationship for? If you want to get married then just get married. The only reason that is holding you back is yourself. If you two are in a relationship that her parents would not approve because of 'Religious' reasons, then maybe you need to sit this one out if they have never met you. Parents play a major role in families and your marriage. Without mutual respect and blessing from the parents it often turns sour if you two do not already have a strong bond to be together for LIFE. That what it means in marriage. If your sexually interested in your girlfriend, that is why you get married to her besides you loving her and seeing her as a future wife.
My friend is 24 and got married two weeks ago. Both her and her husband is very happy. No they did not have sex, and they stayed that way too. They have been dating for a year and 5 months. They already knew what they wanted, and they did it: together, the right way. And is now reaping the benefits of it too. There is no such thing as being too young or too old to marry. You want to commit, you have every right to. Don't believe the lie. At least your thinking about her and not just yourself.
I already dislike the idea of marriage (you sign a piece of paper and waste thousands celebrating this for some reason, and then when you do inevitably break up, it's a hundred times more complicated to get out of the relationship) and as someone who cannot stand being in the spotlight and traditions like these, a big attention-grabbing ceremony would be one step too far, so yes (but that's a completely different reason to).
My brother and I were really close despite an 11 year gap. My brother secretly married his wife a few years ago and it has put a strain on our relationship as a result. Although he wants our family and his wife to be close it's not possible. I believe it was a huge mistake for him to elope and would never even consider putting myself or my family through that. But thats just me... You do you!
I have religious beliefs that sound similar. As long as you are sure what you're doing, you love each other and want to stay with her forever, go ahead and get married. But take everything into consideration. Especially her beliefs. Because they may cause conflicts in the future
not allowed in my religion and even if it was i still wouldn't
I would get married if you really love her and know that this attraction is not just physical. You have to be in love with her before you think about it marriage and after that you have to know that you are prepared to love her for the rest of time you're not having sex. I recommend waiting it out plus there are lots of kinky things you can do that isn't sex.